My SD is 9 and has been living with us now full time for over 15months her behaviour has always been and still is quite challenging.
Without going into too much detail life at her mothers was very chaotic, no routine and structure and would even go as far as saying she suffered neglect from her mother. Which among other things that happened is what led to her coming to live with us.
She can be a very sweet and loving girl, so definitely has a hold of her emotions etc however she is very sly, when she thinks no one is watching or can hear she will be very manipulative to her Little sister, she will tell her to do naughty things then come and tell us what she's done to get her into trouble.
She will blatantly do something she shouldn't (sometimes in my presence) and when I pull her up on it she will completely deny she did it.
She will do something naughty then blame it on one of her siblings
Just seems like no amount of talking and patience will get through to her and struggling a little with how best to deal with it.
Any advice would be very helpful
Will also add that consequences was not something her mum taught her at home. So understand it will take time to get through to her and make her realise that actions does have consequences