Hello Bethelsie

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Hello.Are you on?

yeh just got on not very good at this i had 2 go 2 my email.

Oh by the way some people on mumsnet do not appreciate txt speech like using 2 instead of to.I got told off once and was told "after all there is plenty of space to write.Just thought id warn you.

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Hi twiglett,
You are very welcoming.Wish I was welcomed like that.Like I say I just got told off for using text speech.x

my dd who is 21 months old has severe behaviour problems. She will have up to ten tantrums a day if she cannot get her own way. Her behaviour consists of smacking, kicking, head butting, pulling hair, throwing herself on floor and beating her head against it. She throws her wooden chair across room, her toys are thrown. She still bites, but very rarely. She kicks the door, and screams constantly. We have tried numerous strategies from time out in her chair, ignoring her behaviour and giving attention to the person she has hit. Standing in corner. We always are very consistent in saying no and if she has a tantrum we never give in and she doesnt get her own way. When she calms down we always make her say sorry and give the person a kiss whom she has hit. I just dont no how to modify her behaviour.

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Hello Bethelsie and welcome to mumsnet. There are loads of people on here who will be able to advise you on different strategies of how to handle your dd's behaviour. Unfortunately I'm not one of them! But I always like to say hello to new people. You will find it addictive!

bethelsie,
does she have enough sleep? She should be having roughly 13 hours a day.
How is her diet?
Im reallt sure that this behaviour is normal.It will pass i bet.
Just be as patient as you can be with her.Praise good behaviour and keep ignoring bad.

yes i converted her.Ha she is trapped!

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Yes this si definitely what you should do! It works on "Little Angels".

Lots of praise and attention especially when behaving.

yeh "frustrating" is an understatement. she has a realy good routine she sleeps for hr and a half in afternoon, goes to bed at around 7 wakes at around 630 in morning. Her diet is good she only drinks water and has healthy balanced diet. We dont give her crisps, chocolate or cordial. She has been to a childminder since she was 11 weeks old, so we have always had to have her in good routine as we both work full time.

Can you give us any recent examples of this kind of behaviour? Do you always give her warning of what you are about to do next so she gets a chance to prepare herself? Does she get lots of praise for behaving well?

Not sure if this will help but Baby Whisperer had a head banger onthe other day and she put the said child onto a beanbag when he was having a tantrum - in the end the child automatically went to the beanbag when he was going to throw one!! - Stopped bruising and woman worrying that her little boy was bashing his brain around!!

Do you reward good behaviour - for me that is the most important thing - everytime the child does something good praise them and cuddle them - not a little loads and loads like whatever good thing they have done is the best thing they have ever done. It really does work!!

You could always buy the baby whisperer book and get some tips from that!!