13 month old doesn’t walk, talk, no pincer grip

[Chickenandegg8]

Hi,
Wondering if anyone had been through the same thing....
My little boy is 13.5 months, he still doesn’t do his pincer grip ( most of the time he scoops his food with his hand), he doesn’t walk unaided (or stand) and he only says ‘mama’.
We have a referral to a paediatrician (3-6 month waiting list) for his fine motor skills. Gp doesn’t think there’s anything wrong, he has normal muscle tone etc... just thinks he’s a bit slower. He can feed himself with a spoon, do the ‘circle’ on a shape sorter, turn pages of a book...
He will walk with his walker or holding our hands, pulls himself up fine, cruises fine. Climbs ladder on slide etc...
He only really says ‘mama’, he babbles, has recently started saying gobbledygook words. He used to say ‘dada’ but stopped.
He does seem to understand lots of words, if we ask him ‘where is...’ he will point to it.

He does wave (when he feels like it), clap hands, feed us food, put phone by his ear, brush his hair and try to brush ours. He shows us things all the time, points (and looks back) to both request and share interest. Looks to us for help if he can’t do something like open a box etc...
I will bring this up with the paediatrician but the waiting list is 3-6 months... just wondered if anyone had been through the same thing....
Thanks

Sounds perfectly normal to me. My dd didn't walk till 20 months but talked early and my ds has only just found his voice at 21 months...he had no till about 18 months....but was walking just after his first birthday. They all do everything in their own time. What is it in particular that you are worried about? Has he had his 12 month check with a health visitor?

*no words until about 18 months

Thanks for the reply, I guess I’m just worried as he’s slower with speech and motor skills. It’s not like he’s focussed more on words and not motor skills or he’s quicker at motor skills but no words.... he’s not really either.

I think I’m just a worrier....my dd was quick talking and walked at 14 months, I shouldn’t really compare.

Try not to worry...he isn't slow, he's just slower than your daughter. As long as he shows understanding and is making progress at his own pace I would try and relax.

There is a long range of normal. My DD is the same age and whilst her fine motor skills sound better than your DC's, she can't say ant proper words yet, has never crawled as she is a bum shuffler, has never said mama or dada specifically, she does babble a lot but it's far more vowel sounds than consonents, she also cries a lot and gets very distressed at certain things like nappy changes. Our HV said her communication was a bit behind at her development check which she had at 10 months. But she said she wasn't worried and that we should just take her to the GP if by 18 months she still hadn't taken a single independent step or said mama or dada specifically

My DS didn't walk fully until 18 months. At 13 months I'm pretty sure he was only saying mum mum and dada, nothing else! When he had his 15 month check they were looking for between 1 and 6 words, so don't worry your DS has plenty of time. My DS started saying a few words eg banana ("nana"), cat ("dat") etc from 15 months then around 18-19 months his speech absolutely exploded. He had well over 100 by 20 months, but I think they only actually look for 50 words by 2. Don't worry, the pointing etc is all important and good.

Thanks, I get so worried about him. My nephew has autism, very low functioning and it plays on my mind a lot.

My little boy has now started to sign ‘more’ and ‘food’ so at least he can communicate that way a little too.
He’s also started to go ‘brum brum’ when pushing his toy cars along the floor (or anything with wheels!).

Thanks for your responses, you’ve made me feel much better!