Arrhh am I being to hard on my son

[queenjolo29]

My son is 11 nearly 12, every single night starting from about half 8 he will shout in to me to make him a drink, this will go on for hours. I won't do it and it really annoys me. We live in a flat the kitchen is literally 10feet away fr his bedroom if that, and yet he will shout every night demanding a drink...... Would you make it? An I right in thinking he's god damn old enough to get up and get his own drink.....

You're doing nothing wrong. I have an 11 year old DD and I now make her ONE drink at the start of the evening. I've told her this...I'll make you ONE drink. The rest you get yourself.

In your shoes, I would stop calling back to him. Don't answer. If he continues to shout, warn him that you're going to take something away from him. And then do it.

We had a deal when DS reached 12, we made each other alternate drinks.

Now he buys me beer 😃

Not unreasonable at all, my son is 11 too and I will make him a drink at times, for example if I am making one for myself or I often offer him one with dinner/lunch. But if he is thirsty he can make his own drink and if he asks I politely tell him to go make one himself.

Of course he's old enough to do it himself (and offer you one). Hoping to reach Noteventhbestdrummer's state of nirvana!

Thanks guys I knew I wasn't being to hard on him, he goes to my mum's alot, where she does everything for him so I think that doesn't help. Will stand my ground now lol. Obviously will make him drinks if I'm making them but at half 10 at night he can get is own lol.

How can I better myself when I don't have any ambition???
Bit of back ground I'm a single mum to 3 children. My eldest whos dad has never had contact. My two youngest girls, dad and me slipt for good 6months ago, he's your usual only shows up when his skint type prefers to spend his days sitting in a pub.
I've only ever dreamed of being a mum. I've never had any ambition work wise always said I'll be fine working anywhere cleaner in a shop etc. Now being split with the girls dad is making me realise I'm going to need more than a cleaning job to get by. I don't mind doing college courses or free training etc I just don't no where to start or what to start looking at. I will have no help at all so no one to rely on if I can't go to college or work. I just wanna better my life for me and my children we are in such a rut and I need to start making a life for my family. Anyone else like this??

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