Daughters behaviour becoming impossible

[Lostmymarbles1985]

Looking for some advice. My eldest DD is just coming up to 8. She is becoming intolerable and I know it is only going to get worse. The shouting, defiance, tantrums etc I can cope with but what I need help with is to get her to stop hurting her siblings especially her younger brother who is 5. I really do believe she hates him.. she scrams him, punches and kicks him throws things at him to the point there are times I am scared for his safety. I keep him away from her as much as I can when she is in the mood but sadly we are a family of 6 in a 3 bed house and there isn't a lot of space. So how can I get her to understand that this violence has to stop. I've taken away toys done time outs sent her to her room stopped her doing activities she just doesn't care. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Honestly, if an 8 year old acts that way, I'd get professional help. Tantrums and this sort of violence at that age certainly aren't normal.

I just made a similar (but ridiculously longer) post. And we have professional help and are still in a terrible spot. So, hugs. I keep hoping that this is all a phase and that previous generations just didn't pay attention to kids this age and so weren't aware of how nasty and difficult they could be. I hope that things improve for you guys.