I talked to the HV (or anyone in fact!) for the first time today about my concerns about DSs behaviour...

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and I was so nervous I cried!

I did feel like an idiot but it wasn't too bad.

i basically told her that i know the just over 2.5 years old and I shouldn't really expect 'good' behaviour (all 2 year olds have their moments and paddys) but when he does it just doesnt seem right.

One minute he'll be happy and huggy next he will be griting his teeth with his fists clenched making this 'urghhh' noise over and over again.

He cant be socially nice with other children, he bites (im making him out to be horrid but he ISNT, thats the thing! Hes the most loving little thing ever but he just doesnt seem right at times,

He'll walk down the road making the 'uhrg' sound.

He talks fantasically, can count, knows some colours, she ruled out ADHD as he sits and listens to the hungry catterpiller and bear hunt books and says then with me, so his attention span is fine.

I dont actully think he needs to be diagnosed with something,

I think hes just bored (despite the amount of stuff we do during the day)

She suggested I go to classes (like supernanny classes she said! lol) to learn how to deal with his behaviour rather than trying to label him with something when he seems to be 'fine' (but not at the same time i think)

Im happy with that, as long as I learn to handle him properly and disfuse situations Ill be happier.

just needed to get that out,

tar x

I hope she re-assured you that your DS is fine . this is probably just an articulation problem and you may find it disappears as he gets older. Have you tried talking to him about it?

Yes I talk calmly and ask why is he doing XYZ, and he just screams,

he can talk, he asks me to phone my mum and he will have a full convo with her saying 'hi nana, i went to park today ... i went on the swings and haf a butty' ect full proper convosations, but when he goes off on one he just wont listen or communicate,

its embarresing really as one little girl cam over to him in the reception of the doctors and said hello (was about 5) and he just gritted his teeth clenched his fists and shouted go away big fat head, and started the noises (he got big fat from the hungry catterpiller and added the head himself)

other days hes the sweetest thing

He's still very young. 2yr olds are a law unto themselves.

When does the behaviour happen around other children? Is it when he feels threatened by them or are his bites random? Or does he do it when feeling Jealous such as you giving someone else attention. I think the parent classes sound a great idea as if he thinks his behaviour winds you up he will do it even more! Supernanny's time out technique for unacceptable behaviour may well work, you never know.
Just a little tale to make you feel better, some years ago I attended a seminar on child discipline by child expert Penelope Leach, and she admitted that one of her children bit others at playgroup quite regularly until eventually she had to exclude him! But he grew up to be absolutely charming. Good luck!

Don't know if this helps but when my dd was just 3 she went through a horribly unsociable phase. If someone said something nice to her such as "I like your dress" she would frown back at them and almost growl. It was so embarrassing. She doesn't do it anymore, thank goodness (she's now 6). I wouldn't over-analyse if I were you. He sounds a bright little thing - my dd was also very good with language. She could argue way too well way too young....

My 3-and-a-half-year-old son seems to have an aggression problem too.. He also is an excellent communicator - he's never stuck for a word -is very loving and compliments me all the time, but he just seems to take these little moments where he grits his teeth and shouts and screams. he must have a sore throat afterwards - mines is sore just thinking about it!! I wish I knew what was going on in his head sometimes. My MIL thinks he's very intelligent for his age and that he is just bored. I feel a bit guilty as my older DD and DSD usually shout at him to go away when they are playing because he just gets in at everything, when I think he just wants to be involved. On his own he is great, but when other's are around he feels the need to shout all the time and competes for attention!!

i no how you feel when you say he is the most loving thing ever. my ds went through a really bad behaviour patch at about 2.5 and it was always when there was people around so they thought he was horrible but in side i wanted every one to know that most of the time especailly at home he was kind loving polite and really really caring and sensitive.
he grown out of it now just just a few months down the line but i still cant go back to toddler groups cos some mums just cant seem to let a label go