2.8 yo - are they all this bossy?

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Most important question - do they grow out of it?

He likes to tell me what to do all day every day, even down to giving me instructions on how to change his nappy

OUt of all the characteristics to inherit from me why did it have to be this one?

Am I alone in this?

no, my DS is 2.10 and can be really bossy. Not in a horible way but just always telling me what to do and how to do it. He is always saying "no no no no no Mummy do this....." He can also be really loving. I think that its pretty natural really.

Mine isn't like that, but then again I'm not bossy

He's very verbal with the No No No's, but he doesn't give me alternative suggestions.

On the other hand, my next door neighbour's boy is a total control freak.

Nice to know I'm not alone in this

I get told where to sit, what to do, how to do things, who I can talk to, what I am allowed to do, for how long etc etc etc.

I also get 'mummy, I said NOW' (sometimes that does make me laugh )

Don't mind sometimes, but sometimes I do have to tell him to stop being so bossy.

Funnily enough, if he's playing with another child and they tell him to do something, he'll do it without questioning. I wish he'd do something for me without questioning, or backchatting.

He's got a 'strong personality'. I adore him, but sometimes...

yep and dd hasnt grown out of it and shes 4{going on 40}

Is there no hope

The other day made me laugh. Sat on my lap and wanted his blanket. It was over by the TV. SO he yelled his dad (in another room) to come and get it for him.

To think I thought he took after dp

ds isnt bossing me so much yet.......but hes not 2 yet,the mental blockage of dd being a toddler is fading and im dreading the whole thing

The further you get away from certain stages, the less you want to go back

My ds (2.8m) is a bit of a 'mare atm.

He screams at us and is sooooo bossy.

Everything and everyone is stinky or poopoo and (as he is very articulate) says things like,

'Dont shout at me Mummy, you make me so sad when you shout at me!'

We are trying zero tolerance atm and he had some toys taken away from him tonight but he has no fear and such a strong personality.

So cute though.

sounds like my ds (though he is being reasonably good atm).

If I lose my temper and shout he tends to shout back.

And he always has to have the last word even if muttered under his breath.

Seriously am glad though that he is confident and not always anxious/sensitive like I am/was. It just takes a bit of getting used to.

I wouldn't swop him really.

I agree...I am glad he has a strong personality and wont be shy like ds1 is.

He always wants the last word.

I wouldnt swap him either but I am pleased both boys are going to my parents for a weekend! They can put up with it for a while (though not sure what my father will make of him!!)

You could be talking about our DD (2.5)! When my DH changes gear in the car she shouts 'Hands!' because he's taken one of his hands off the wheel! The other day she told me off for putting my hands in my pockets! (Come to think of it, she may just have a thing about hands!) I love it that she is spirited and feisty!

my 2.7 yr old is super bossy
she likes to dictate when I am allowed to look at her, where to sit etc.
I think it is quite normal. She is VERY feisty and horrifyingly like me...

i know exactly what u mean, i am having ine to ones with my health visitor at the moment as dd is playing up a bit, and as i dont want to beat the living daylights out of her,and she just screams back at me, i feel i need an outsiders point of view and suggestions.she is such a madame its unreal

I usually find the ignoring option the best. Anything else has no impact on him, he's either unbothered or will yell back (is very articulate). But ignoring him is the one thing he cannot stand.

Sympathies Suezee, it's hard when what you do just bounces off.

MrsJC - dp is the one who is told when he can and can't look at ds in this house - luckily I have been spared that

My DD 3.4 is very bossy too. Like Chipbutty's icidents of "hands" when driving, my DD at 2.5 began shouting "both hands mummy" when I was driving. I was gobsmacked. In a supermarked recently my DD would not budge her child's trolley out of the path of another shopper and shouted "I was here first". True she was!! She is certainly not copying me on that one!
She gives me instructions to behind her. It makes me laugh at times and I am glad in some respects that she is so confident and direct! I was completely shy and sensitive. It will be interesting to see how her character changes or calms down!

YEah I hope ds doesn't lose it. WOuld hate him to be as lacking in confidence as I have always been.

(Am Volde - have changed name back to normal)

Ha ha this is soo like my DD 2.7. she tells people to fasten their seatbelts in the car. where to sit what to eat, she bosses other children around to but in a nice way (showing them how to do something) I got told to "DO ONE MUMMY" the other day, I was so shocked I didn't know what to say so I had to walk away. most of the time she's funny with her dictating but I do have to tell her to stop it every so often.
you're not alone it's verrrrry normal