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Cross dressing aged 5, I refuse to panic .... but ......

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Easy · 15/09/2004 12:47

Just reassure me.

ds goes to childminder who has 2 daughters, and on a wednesday looks after 2 other girls. On thurs-fri she does have a boy instead, abit younger than ds.

Lately the fad each day has been for dressing up. childminder has a selection of outfits, boys and girls, but ds particularly favours the yellow satin Belle dress, and has chosen to wear it lots in the last few days. Today he couldn't have it, one of the others got it, so he's struggling to get into the swan lake tutu instead .

I'm telling myself not to worry, he'll grow out of it. I'm right, aren't I ?????

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Chandra · 15/09/2004 12:52

There was a thread about this some time ago, and I think you you shouldn't worry, many children love to dress up and many have pink as their facourite colour (the discussion was about a pink swiming suit for a boy, if I remeber correctly..)it will come a time when we and his friends will organise a No-Girls-Allowed club that would last for quite a while.

StickyNote · 15/09/2004 12:52

I'm sure he will. Ds went through a phase of flouncing around in a pink fairy number with matching tiara and handbag. I made sure I took plenty of photos for his 21st . Btw, DH's always seem to worry about this a lot more than we do...

Blu · 15/09/2004 12:54

TBH, easy, if yellow isn't his colour, I think you should be seriously concerned. Sorry, I felt it would be best to be honest.

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Easy · 15/09/2004 12:56

yup, it's dh's comments that have made me post.

Oh and a call from the childminder, giggling, to say "about this cross-dressing thing, he's too big for the tutu"

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Easy · 15/09/2004 13:05

Thanx Blu, I personally prefer him in Lilac

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scotlou · 15/09/2004 13:36

I hope he'll grow out of it cos my ds (4.5) is the same and really likes dressing up in his sister's pink fairy otfit. He was prancing about in it on Sunday while wearing absolutely nothing underneath! (How come I didn't have a camera handy?) Actually - he suits it better than his sister!

jampot · 15/09/2004 13:45

Chandra - my ds has actually scrawled "no girlz allewd" and "no lades" on his bedroom door - presumably paving the way for plenty of slutty girls but definitely no ladies!

roisin · 15/09/2004 14:14

My ds1 always used to make a beeline for the pink, frilly, sparkly things at playgroup ... they even have a 'little black dress' of mine from eons ago in the dressing up box. I guess they've grown out of that phase now though, as I can't remember when I last saw either of them in it

Tartegnin · 15/09/2004 16:16

Like secur, my dd prefers boy dress-up - pirate being the current favorite. Sad, isn't it, that one way "cross-dressing" isn't really an issue, but the other way, it can be? (Though, I'd be so happy if dd would wear a princess item or two!) I totally wouldn't worry, but if you really care, why not run up some boy dress up a la, restoration period - all that velvet and lace, or Errol Flynn-type pirate, with flounces and ribbons? Seriously, though, I'd enjoy it while it lasts and get a couple of good photos to embarass him with later on!

JanH · 15/09/2004 17:32

scotlou, I have a picture of DS1 aged about 3 in a bright orange tutu skirt with nothing underneath (I didn't realise when I took the picture but now I hope it will be worth millions in due course! )

bundle · 15/09/2004 17:33

there's a boy who goes to dd1's tap class every week in a pink tutu...he looks about 5, and other boys do wear more ordinary clothes.

toddlerbob · 16/09/2004 01:23

My ds went with ds to choose gum boots, they came back empty handed as apparently the only ones he would consider were the pink and yellow barbie ones. DH's always think the worst, would have been interesting to have a girl as well to see if she was allowed Thomas the Tank Engine.

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Easy · 11/10/2004 11:50

It's getting worse!
Looking thru the Christmas mail order catalogues on Sunday (he loves doing this).

He has decided to ask Santa for a pop-up tent ..... A pink, fairy princesses castle pop-up tent. Won't even contemplate the traditional grey castle shaped one with battlements

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Marina · 11/10/2004 11:59

Easy! Ds is nagging us for a ludicrously spangled Playmobil fairy castle for dd (aged 1 who is liable to eat most of it and sit in the wreckage) so that he can play with it too.
Grey sounds so boring, I have a certain sympathy with your ds.
I think he will grow out of it quite soon now (our ds doesn't cross dress any more at 5.5 but he did until quite recently and still claims to like the colour pink).
The other thread that Chandra mentions (or maybe it was yet another) did have a lot of people posting that parents should gently steer boys away from pink stuff to prevent them being mocked in public. I can see that POV, but applaud any child who wants to buck the gender trend at home!

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