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New school same behaviour for DS

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Lollypop85 · 10/06/2019 10:46

My DS9 continually has poor behaviour at school, mainly not listening and being easily distracted but more recently he's become heavy handed with his friends which is new (as far as we know)

We have moved many times due to being in the military and this time round it's the biggest school DS has had to attend.

We have a very happy home, DH and I have always had a positive relationship. Since the beginning of the year DD started at boarding school so DS is the only child in the home most of the time.

People are always telling me what a lovely, thoughtful young man he is so why is school so hard?

Every single school has been the same and i just don't know where to turn? He blames everyone else for his behaviour and makes excuses. Then when we sit and discuss it with him he says "i don't know" (why I was in trouble).

The latest thing was he told someone that his dad slaps him so it's okay to do it to others ( this is absolutely not true and he said so himself when questioned) obviously the school followed this up.

Arghhhh!

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BlueChampagne · 10/06/2019 13:31

Can I ask why his sister is at boarding school and he isn't? Might he be reacting (consciously or unconciously) against so many moves, and also require the stability a boarding school can offer?

Lollypop85 · 12/06/2019 16:29

The school is for secondary education. He is not yet old enough but excited at the prospect of going next year.

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jollyohh · 12/06/2019 22:11

Has he moved schools a lot?

It's very hard being the new kid, making friends, penetrating existing friendship groups, especially knowing you'll have to do it all a gain soon any way so why bother behaving?

BlueChampagne · 13/06/2019 12:47

That explains it. Agree with jollyohh, which I fear isn't much help right now.

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