Think my ds is a BRAT-finding him impossible!!

[cheekymonk]

Hi there, anyone else feel the same??? DS is 2.5 and I find his behaviour bloody atrocious alot of the time. He used to be pretty compliant, brushing teeth, sharing etc but now does not want to know. Yesterday he threw sachets that hit a woman in the eye and last week he threw a water bottle at an old man's feet. He has major tantrums after leaving toys r us even though we have been in there an hour playing with the trainset!!
The worst thing is and my biggest worry is that we have recently had car crash and so have new car and seat. He undid it in seconds and have already done the car won't go unless done up thing but it is not having that much effect. It just scares me...
He can be lovely but he is so strong willed and such a force to be reckoned with. I didn't expect this so young.. is it typical toddler stuff or is he a brat?
Any help/advice would be appreciated.
PS. Have alreay made allowances for car accident, daddy being away (navy)etc.

Have you not heard of the terrible twos?!
I assume the hrowing bottles/ sachets etc was ina shop?
Do online shopping!
I never took my DS's into the shops.
Still don't if I can avoid it, I know not so easy if you are alone.
Do you have friends in similar positions so can babysit in turn whilst you go shopping.
ALso recommend ' Todler Taming'

Yes have heard of terrible twos but my ds seems worse than others I know. The bottle incident was on a bus, the sachet incident was at a soft play area. If I take him shopping he just moans..
Yes I do have toddler taming, must read more!
Don't have circle of friends to babysit unfortunately.
Thanks

Mine was always the worst.
Stopped going to Mums and Toddlers with him as the 'tut-tutting' from the other Mums got too annoying.
He is 4 now and absolutely lovely. Still very strong willed.
And I doubt if the throwin stuff was intentional?

No, I don't think he meant to hurt anybody but like you say the tut-tting and disaprroving glances drive you mad. I just want him to be a happy, well adjusted child and his behaviour doesn't express that!

not a brst at all , just a normal toddler...but yes it can be infuriating and frustrating ...sigh

would taking favourite toys away from him work? we got a cheap clear storage box which is our 'chill out' room. if our dd is being particularly naughty, we send her to 'chill out and thing aout what she's done/doing' etc. she gets 3 'warnings, then chill out time, and if that doesn't work, she has soemthing taken away from her adn put in the box. she knows that to get it back, she has to earn it.

hard going at first as it takes a week or two to understand the concept but now, we only have to mention the box and things calm down.

she even sends herself to the chill out room if she's getting into a strop etc.

Totally agree with Doublebluff.

Don't go to TOysRUs with toddlers.

Wisk round supermarket at high speed with packof minichedders for DS.

Supervise vigilantly on bus.

Don't go clothes shopping.

I agree with all the advice here! Mine all got worse from 2 and a half. I've now realised (it's taken me until dc3!)I have to accept they will be horrible for a couple of years and I just need to make sure I emerge from it still in control!

It's nice to know I'm not alone. I had started to think it was just me with a less than angelic toddler. (especially as when Im out it seems that every one elses child is ok!!) However much you may want to shut the door and not put yourself through the stress and trauma of shopping (I was at one point sobbing last month in Tesco's) sometimes its just got to be done! Every body else seem to have just perfect children dont they. I have just got to accept that my child is different! and that his strong willed personality and hyperactivity will one day be a positive thing for him.... In the mean time I may just make up a t shirt that says "He's not with me!" Keep smiling

Thanks everyone. Luckily car seat issue went better today.
I agree, best option is to accept tht this is just a bad phase and he won't be like this for ever whilst trying to retain some control!
Chill out/time out is also an option to explore.
I was watching closely on the bus but the bugger is always one step ahead!!!!
Yes dontlookatme I was crying in the shower the other day at the thought of another day with a demanding toddler but sometimes it just gets to you doesn't it?
Thanks again x

Call him 'spirited', watch him like a hawk and know that he loves you and you can pay him back when you're 80!

I think there are devices you can buy for car seats that cover the buckles. Try mothercare catalogue.

Otherwise, yes, sounds like normal terrible twos - they are discovering that they are separate people and can DO things like exert their will against yours. And cause things to happen - if I scream and kick my legs about and have a tantrum I wonder what will happen?

Some people give in to small stuff and save discipline for major battles, some people do avoid (ie online shopping), distract (can you find something yellow? Ooh look, there's a picture of a puppy on that bag. Can you hold this apple? Here, have a French stick to chew...) and then can't remember the third but it probably involves leaving the shop...

Thanks again. Have just been reading the blowjob thread, now must get back to ds and be a decent mum!!!