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10 year old behaviour

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idsibaco · 29/05/2019 13:23

I have a 10 yo son and I am getting increasingly worried about his behaviour, so much so that I have been able to get referred to a paediatric child development centre, but tbh I don't have much hope for what they will be able to do.

My son is very moany and bossy about a lot of things. I think this stems from want of control and a sense of entitlement. He wants to be the best at everything and when he isn't, he doesn't appreciate he may need to work on some areas but gets sulky and then even more unable to do well. This is particularly obvious in sports and when doing maths at school or homework.

He is his own worst enemy - once in a mood there is no helping him and he blames everyone and anyone else. I have another son too who doesn't act in this way so I am unsure if this is how I have brought him up. He has always been pretty demanding since he was a baby but I always put this down to age. Now he is older I can see it is starting to affect friendships and I want to help before he alienates his peers altogether. It is also putting pressure on the family altogether.

Has anyone else had the same issues and did you find anything that helped your child learn how to manage their emotions in a positive way to enable them to live more productive and happy lives?

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HennyPennyHorror · 29/05/2019 13:24

Is he being excluded from his friendships?

idsibaco · 29/05/2019 13:43

HennyPennyHorror recently there have started to be some unkind comments. I witnessed this myself as he always tried to tell me everyone was fine if I tried to ask anything regarding friendships. That night he did eventually admit that he doesn't feel he has many friends and was upset.

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chickensdontpocktheypeck · 30/05/2019 09:17

Sounds just like my 9 year old son
Always wants to be boss/leader and in control. Can’t deal with losing or not being good At something. Has to win or the moods start but he won’t work at getting better.
Point blank refuses homework because it’s hard even though he is bright at school. He just can’t be bothered and acts like the world owes him a huge favour all the time.
Nothing is ever His fault. He goes into a rage when you tell him it is. He would argue til he was blue in the face that he is right. And doesn’t like adults “knowing best” and doesn’t see why they should have different rules etc.

No help but I sympathise!

4cheekymonkey · 30/05/2019 21:10

Yep same here! Ds1 is almost 10. He has always been like this but recently seems a lot more evident. He is hugely into football and him being the best at it seems to more important to him than mainiting good friendships which saddens me a lot! He would moan about his friends and if I don't agree with about how mean they are, he will go into a mood and can almost guarantee that he will take it out on his brothers... I'm hoping this is phase and won't last forever!

HennyPennyHorror · 30/05/2019 22:06

OP is his Dad in the picture?

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