Hi. Any advice on how to encourage my daughter to be more confident and assertive in group situations. Things like, not letting others push in front of her in a line or pushing in her turn. Or being confident enough to be the first at things e.g. running for cake or sweets at a party.
It’s so frustrating to see her with friends and in any social situations where she’s just there lagging behind not realising everyone has gone in front of her. Sometimes when her class have been asked to line up, she ends up being the last one at the back simply because she’s not been alert enough to realise everyone is going in front of her. She will happily stand there and let others push in.
I find it very difficult to say anything to her as I don’t want to upset her or make her feel like she’s doing something wrong. But equally it pains me to watch her constantly like this.
She’s otherwise a happy, very smart and well behaved girl. I often get told by other mums and people how mature she is (e.g always the one trying to resolve conflicts between friends like sharing or crying), how kind and caring she is etc etc.
Some advice please. How do I gently nudge her to be more pushy and forceful, and not allow her to constantly lag behind?