Hi, I am looking for some advice as to what I can do regarding my difficult 3 year old. I apologise for the long windedness I am new to Mumsnet and I don’t know all the abbreviations yet. I have 3 children 11, 3 and 1. They are all treated the same and live by the same rules my son 3 has portrayed difficult behaviours since before he was 1 but he is getting out of control. He doesn’t step a foot out of line when at nursery but the minute he walks out the doors he starts. Runs off, tantrums, refuses to walk, attacks me. You name it. I’ve gone through the HV and they were useless and in her own words said he was just a little s*. I’ve had enough. He controls everything I do! I cannot go to the shop without a refusal to walk or a meltdown in the shop because he wants something. I end up having to put him under my shoulder or fireman carry him because I have a 1 year old to push in the pram. I love my son with all my heart but I can’t take much more. He attacks his baby brother bites his big sister totally disregards everything I say! Trashes the house when he doesn’t get his own way (daily) breaks things. He eventually says sorry but it’s never remorseful it’s only ever because he wants something! He eats a healthy diet I only let him drink water or milk and on the odd occasion squash! I’m sick of hearing the phrase ‘age and stage’ 