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Tantrum in full fling. Moral support needed.

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Notquitegrownup · 20/07/2007 17:35

Aaaagggghhh! DS1 (aged 7) is in the middle of a major tantrum, and I?m just after some moral support. He came home from school very ?high? ? they had been indoors all day because of the rain. He then played nicely ? if a little loudly ? with a friend after school on the PS2, until it was time to go to karate, at 4.45.

Unfortunately getting him out of the house usually involves lots of reminders and prompting, as I asked him to get ready, he snapped and spoke rudely. I told him that he was speaking unacceptably and it immediately escalated from there with him shouting loudly, I tried to catch hold of him to calm him and my nail caught him ? I?m currently being accused of ?attempted murder?

He is now in his bedroom, with no karate. He is major meltdown/shouting/screaming/ throwing things, appealing for sympathy, and coming down regularly to complain and shout some more. I am staying calm (I am, I am, I am!) and sending him back each time. It?s been nearly an hour now. Please tell me something sensible.

(The hardest thing is knowing that if I had overlooked it and taken him to Karate, he would have been fine after some exercise and fun. But I know that I can?t ignore the way he was speaking to me ? he has, of late, started to speak back a lot more, particularly when excited.)

As I write, we have just moved to lots of tears from upstairs, feeling sorry for himself. our house is not a happy place this evening.

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HedTwigg · 20/07/2007 17:37

awwwwwwwwwww

its just your turn that's all

there is a limited tantrums and they just move around children

and today its your turn

tomorrow will be better

beansprout · 20/07/2007 17:37

I feel for you, hope it all calms down soon.

suezee · 20/07/2007 17:38

awwww, ur doing the right thing tho.......if u give into him he will know he can do it again........just leave him up there and wait until he calms down, and explain that his behaviour has been way out of line, hope ur ok......kids can be evil

Notquitegrownup · 20/07/2007 18:15

Thank you. I know these things. It's just better hearing it from someone else.

He's calmed a lot now - thought that this was due to go on a lot longer. And it is a good thing that this has come to a head. He has been getting ruder recently - very pre-teenage.

Really annoyed he's missed karate though.

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stoppinattwo · 20/07/2007 18:19

I think you did the right thing love, tough as it seems. He will think twice before he behaves like that again

Budababe · 20/07/2007 18:23

lol at "attempted murder"! I'll get on to social services in a mo!

DS (almost 6) is answering back a lot atm. It is SO wearing. Sounds like you handled it very well. Next time he messes about before karate and you say no karate he will know you mean it.

DangerousBeans · 20/07/2007 18:26

You're doing the right thing.

But maybe it's time to go up and give him a cuddle?

Was it the last day of school today?
Even if it wasn't, they're normally all a but tired and grumpy on a Friday, aren't they?

Well, I certainly am!

Notquitegrownup · 20/07/2007 18:43

I know it was the right thing to do. Grrr.

We don't finish until next Wednesday, but yes, I know it's end-of-term-itis, mixed in with wet-day-itis, mixed in with being 7.

I allowed him down for a very civilised tea, so he was only up for 20 mins in all!! He's back for another 10 mins worth, before I go and give him a cuddle.

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