2 year old tantrums please help!

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My DS has been having tantrums for the last few weeks and I don't know how best to deal with them 😭
I've had such a crappy day today as everything has 'set him off' and it's been one thing after another I feel really fed up tonight as he's been such a dream up until now.
I know it's normal and they get them at this age I just would like to know how best to deal with them? Or avoid them?
The things that set them off are if he can't have what he wants which I know is a classic scenario. So he wants 'a snack and it's nearly dinner time' or he 'wants to help me cook dinner but there's hot pans so it's too dangerous' or 'he wants to get the play doh out and we are getting ready to go out' etc etc.
I am aware of what might start a tantrum and sometimes will avoid it by giving him what he wants if it's reasonable, however as you know we can't always say yes to things they want so how do I deal with those scenarios?
Any advice or help greatly appreciated and it would be nice to know in now on my own with this and others have been there 😩🤷🏻‍♀️
Thanks ☺️

you aren't on your own OP. we use timeout.
when he is calm, take him to the designated time out spot (we have a corner as we can then do time out when we are not at home), and tell him that when he throws a tantrum he will have to go into time out for 2 minutes.
when he is throwing a tantrum, you need to clearly say 'ds, I have said no. go timeout.' if he doesn't go, walk him over to the spot, before saying 'you are in timeout for 2 minutes.' and walking away (keep an eye on him in case he turns around to try and watch what you are doing etc.) we have this timer, and they know that when it pings they are allowed to turn around.
i then address what they did, calmly ('we don't throw tantrums ds/we listen to mummy when she says no') before letting them go and play. I
it's really important you react straight after the tantrum has started/ they do something naughty, because if its not done straight away the dc can't connect the bad action with the consequence so don't know why they are getting punished.

all the best OP x

As you said its totally normal its doing him no harm either he's just frustrated as he doesn't understand why he can't get his own way. I'd stick to your guns and rules at all times tbh. During the temper tantrum though just make sure he's safe and won't hurt himself and literally just ignore it not much else you can do about it. Its draining but totally normal and reacting to it will prob make the phase last longer as he'll soon realise he's getting a reaction. Don't cave though once you've said no just give him his space and let him get over it.

There are two types of tantrums, dictator tantrums and distress tantrums. In a dictator tantrum, the child is making demands, they may be screaming but there are no real tears here. In a distress tantrum the child is emotionally distraught. This can be over something trivial, like you ran out of their favorite cereal, but the distress they experience is very real. Their nervous system is still immature and the emotion is so strong that they cannot calm themselves down.

For dictator tantrums you ignore, that means you completely ignore the behavior, no explaining, no comforting, no reasoning with them. For distress tantrums you comfort. It can take some practice to distinguish between the two and you have to watch out because sometimes a tantrum that starts off as dictator can become a distress tantrum. If you approach tantrums this way, they will occur less often. The child learns that dictator tantrums won't get them what they want and they know they can count on you to help them when they are experiencing distress. If you're giving in to any dictator tantrums, they are going to get worse.