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5 yo doesn’t want to do anything at school

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ChipmunksInAttic · 10/05/2019 22:57

I have a 5 year old son who can be very stubborn and has his own opinion about everything. Every day is a struggle, if he has P.E. or swimming that day, even more struggle.

He’s not really sporty and when he can’t do things properly, he doesn’t want to do it at all. But that is not only for sports, we enrolled him to music club where he plays guitar, but had to quit at the end of the term because he looked so miserable. I’m taking him to swimming after school, there are usually 2-3 pupils in each group and he loves it, but he says he doesn’t like instructions at school, and that’s why he doesn’t enjoy swimming at school.

He wants everything in his way. Today his teacher told us it was a very difficult week and they could hardly convince him to go PE, swimming etc.

He loves reading and I think that’s because he’s very good at it, probably the best in the class. But he needs to learn to do other things even if he’s not good at them. We’re not really pressuring him and I always tell him to enjoy his time at school, that’s all I ask from him, but he becomes a grumpy kid most of the time unless he’s doing what he wants to do. I don’t really know how to motivate him anymore. Do you have any advice please?

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Scotmumof1 · 13/05/2019 20:55

Hello,
I am having similar trouble with my 5yo son. We continually receive feedback from the school about him not following adult instruction or staying on task. Always does what he wants to do without consideration of the plan for the day. I understand that this can be very frustrating.
We've has a couple of meetings with the school and they recommended going to the gp and possibly being referred to an outside agency. We did this but because he only seems to have problems in the one environment a referral was refused and we were referred back to the school. Not very helpful.
We have good days and bad days but when the bad days happen they break my heart.
Currently our sons learning is not affected by his behaviour. He is already reaching primary 2 targets which are ahead of him.
If his behaviour continues we would consider private therapy.
Feel your pain
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