So sick of my 4yo

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I am getting to the point where I can't stand being alone with my 4yo. There is no respite from him constantly flying off the handle at the tiniest things then calling me names and telling me to 'shush'. I try to empathise with him regarding his feelings but I cannot continue to let him call names etc. He even called his grandparents stupid once when he was exhausted and upset . Nothing gets him to stop.

It doesn't seem to matter how much one-on-one time we spend together, he wants my attention every second of the day and I get so annoyed I end up being quite cold sometimes. (I don't call him names though! ). I end up locking myself in the bathroom occasionally too out of desperation (while my son screams and bangs on the door).

These things combined make me dread spending each day with him. It doesn't matter if we go out and have a nice time, as soon as we're in the door, the begging and whining and raging starts. I'm losing my mind. Help!

Oh, he is in nursery 2 days per week and loves it but there aren't any local activity groups that cater to kids of his age and temperament (ie. He doesn't like structured activities and refuses to join in ). I've found it hard to make friends with other parents because of this.

If he loves nursery and thrives in there is there no chance to increase the number on days he goes? in order to give you more time for yourself?

What about church hall type playgroups or toddler groups they usually cater for babies until 4 years.

We have done gym type activities at our local leisure centre. Think one was called walking gym, one was called mini gym, and one was called active tots. it's pat as you go. You go around the apparatus, so they do whatever they want, rather than it being a lesson or structured. Some do have singing at the end, but it's only the last 5 mins so they don't have to be able to sit for ages.

Also we go for walks, go to garden centre, go on the bus etc anything to get out the house.