2yo, pushing, hitting, biting, not sharing - help!

[NathansMummy0203]

Just that really. My DS1 is 2 years old and I have DS2 who is 1 year old. DS1 has always been a bit heavy handed but he become really hard work recently where other kids are concerned. He is around other kids frequently and also goes to nursery. Nursery teachers say that he is good as gold there and is actually quite affectionate and caring towards the other kids. I know he can be like that as he shows this side often - just never when my friends are over for play dates with their kids he's always the one getting into trouble for hitting etc as per the thread title. I've tried positive parenting techniques and explaining why we don't hit, I've tried the naughty corner which he will go to and stay in but then just come out and do it over and over again. It's exhausting and I'm starting to dread seeing my friends with kids as it's always mines that's the trouble maker. My poor DS1 is struggling also as every time I turn my back for a second he does something to him. Like today he's got a big scratch under his eye that was bleeding. So frustrating because I know what a loving affectionate little boy he can be. I am at a loss what to try next. I'm due DC3 in September and am worried how he will be with the new baby also. Can anyone give me any advice on this please? I feel like I must be doing something wrong

Does it happen when you go to your friends house or only at yours? I have noticed some children get a bit overwhelmed when other children are in their territory. I know this doesn't help with the issue with his siblings.

That's a good question. I can't actually say as 99% of the time my friends and family would come here. It does however happen if I take him to soft play or somewhere like that. I've just collected them both from nursery a while ago and one of the little boys (11 months) had woken up from his nap and DS1 went over to him and was stroking him and gave him some toys. Bizarre how he can't be like that with his friends.

I could have written this!

My boy is exactly the same (just turned 2), can be so sweet, good as gold with his peers at nursery but always ends up hitting on play dates 🙁 (also doesn't matter if it's our house, someone else's, or soft play)

I always reinforce that we're gentle with our friends and talk to him about why it's wrong to hit ... I suspect it's a communication/frustration thing, his words are about average (he can do short sentences but he's not very clear). His understanding is good, I think. I think he's too young for naughty step etc although not sure how I feel about that anyway...

Have no tips, but really hoping someone comes along with a magic nugget of advice!

@NathansMummy0203 & @amelie427 OMG... I am literally dealing with exactly the same thing! my DS is 2 at the beginning of July, goes to nursery and is good as gold. But any other time we are out, have other kids over etc he is contantly pushing/pulling/hitting/biting. We have tried time out (naughty step) he sits there fine, says sorry and then goes off and does it again.
We are TTC no.2 so he doesnt have a brother or sister yet though.

I am just sick of being the mum and toddler groups that has to run around after him and try and jump in before he does it. or if im too slow to catch him im spending the whole time telling him off and apologising to all the other mums!

He is big for his age as is a solid boy, so is heavy handed!

Its been going on for about 2 months so far!

HELP!