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6yo DS ADHD or just a nutter!

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AllOfUS99 · 22/04/2019 16:26

Hi all, first time posting here - just interested to know other people's opinions really!

DS turned 6 2 days ago and he is on the go ALL the time! He is my 3rd boy and the other two 13 and 11) are not at all like this! I can't decide if we ought to seek help or if it's just who he is! I know boys can be hard work at this age but his friends aren't crazy like him at all!

A little background - he started messing about in nursery, not doing as he was told, being a bit hitty with other kids etc. It was pretty much during his last term there and they did charts etc to help. He went up to reception and had a hell of a time settling in. Couldn't/wouldn't sit still etc, couldn't/wouldn't follow instruction. We felt the school were super harsh, there were only 9 in his class and the teacher just didn't seem to be able to get him to behave. We moved him to another school after 2 terms. New school worked with him and got him under control within a couple of weeks.

This year (yr1) his behaviour has deteriorated again. He can't/won't sit still/follow instructions. He sits on a table on his own to work. Has to walk with the teacher to lunch/PE etc. We see similar issues at home. We have to ask 6 times to put shoes on/clean teeth/come for dinner etc. He jumps everywhere, hurls himself at people (but is SUPER loving) School want us to get him assessed but we think they are over-zealous with sending kids for diagnoses (1 in 5 has a report!) so are dragging our heels about it.

This is probably a bit rambly but I wondered if anyone might have any insight?

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TigerQuoll · 22/04/2019 21:45

Just get him assessed! The assessment won't hurt him and then if he is diagnosed you can access help. I don't know why you wouldn't want to.

AladdinMum · 24/04/2019 12:08

It is difficult to tell, his behavior does sound a little extreme, but it could also be within normal range, really depends on his personality. I have seen many energetic, strong willed and super stubborn 5-7 year olds in my time, and if not caused by any underlying development issue (like ADHD as you mentioned) they tend to calm down naturally with age. Like the previous poster mentioned it could be worth assessing for peace of mind, there is nothing to loose and everything to gain. A diagnosis is not given easily, it is normally the parents that have to fight for a diagnosis, so if a diagnosis is given without parents having to fight for it then it is probable that it is correct. Don't be worried about taking your child for assessment and him getting a diagnosis on the spot, that does not happen.

Sarah1993 · 24/04/2019 20:18

Hi I have too very bad behaved boys and im really struggling to to cope with them can I have any tips on how to deal with them

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