Wits end with toddler tantrums

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My DS 2.5 year old regularly has tantrums. So far today’s has lasted 45 minutes and still going strong. Started because he didn’t want to pick his older brother up from pre school.

Can’t get him to calm down, so I’m ignoring him. He does this regularly - I’m starting to think he has a behavioural problem. Argh so hard

Have you tried a reward chart with stickers and taking things away when he has his tantrums? He’s probably old enough to realise that he doesn’t want his favourite programme taken away and if you do it a few times he may learn with just a warning before a tantrum.

Hi mummsy, yes I have but he seems to just see rage through it.
His key worker at nursery suggested using a box and reward his behaviour by adding something to it like a ping pong ball, and taking one away each time he does something not good so I’ll be trying that from tomorrow.
Am desperate to try anything now

Watching because we're in the midst of a VERY tantrummy phase at the moment.

Tantrums lasting 45 mins because of a fairly trivial thing could be concerning as they sound quite extreme. Can you not distract him away from the tantrum? or is he totally inconsolable? as a test if you were to offer him something he loves like turning the TV on or giving him a treat will that break the tantrum and make him smile? toddlers tend to be fairly easy to distract away from 'their immediate troubles' when rewards are offered.