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Toddler regression, help!

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Echomama · 03/04/2019 21:01

So I have a 27month old and a 3 week old. For roughly the last three weeks dd1 has been making that horrible whingy whiney bloody annoying noise pretty much all day every day.
She acts up more doing things she never used to do and doing things she knows she's mot allowed to do.
She used to be an angel and hated being in the wrong and would rarely have to tell her to not do something more than twice.
I know this is because she doesn't want me to sit and feed a newborn and rather me play with her but as it turns out, I've got no real choice in that one...

I try to give her special time just me and her but there isn't really much time in the day that I'm not trying to settle dd2 or getting general housework/food/animal care done.
Any advice? She doesn't answer when I ask what's wrong, she screams if I come to her when she says she wants holding, she screams when I don't come to her when she wants me to, she screams if I ignore her and screams if I don't.
Really tests me and makes me just ot want to deal with her while dd2 is sat there screaming because she needs to be burped more...

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NoKnit · 03/04/2019 22:11

At your stage you should not be worrying about housework or animals and food should be prepared by your husband so easy for you to microwave etc. It sounds like you are trying to do too much. You gave birth 3 weeks ago and your body still recovering. Stop all household jobs and cuddle your children whenever they need it and then some, your toddler needs reassuring that you are still her Mummy too and your baby obviously needs feeding/changing. Everything else can wait.

Lots of us have been there, it will get better.

partyhardynow · 05/04/2019 05:24

Like you say, she's adjusting to a massive change in her life (just as you are) and she's feeling unsettled.

Can you get out the house? I found that easiest when I had my 2nd, it takes ages to get ready to leave but once you do then the baby would sleep in the pram and I could concentrate on the toddler, go for a walk/park feed the ducks etc, and I also wasn't thinking about what a shithole the house was like when I was at home!

Also don't be afraid to use tv as a distraction, my eldest watched SO MUCH tv when I had my second, it's a temporary state of affairs and I'm not lying when I say Hey Duggee got me through the first few months of having two children!

Echomama · 05/04/2019 12:55

Love me some hey duggee! Also have things recorded for the times there isn't anything on TV she enjoys.
We do go for a walk everyday, rain or shine. Today as am writing this it's taken us two hours to do a 20 minute walk because she's refused to walk, screamed when I've held her, screamed when I put her in the Pram so on so forth.
But ye, more tv it is I think

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