First post so apologies if I use the wrong jargon, have posted in the wrong place, drip feed, reverse(?).....
DS11 (Yr7) has always had issues with toileting. He leaves it until the last minute and then dashes to the toilet by which time he's leaked a bit in his pants or occasionally full blown wet himself. He says he has a small bladder and that the urge to go comes on so quickly sometimes that he can't make it to the toilet.
This was happening quite a lot a few years back and I put it down to age, not being bothered, just wanting to play. His father and I had also just split up and I wondered if it was an emotional response to that.
Since starting at secondary school the incidents have increased and more often than not he comes home with wet pants and trousers. He says it usually happens after lunch so I've told him to try and use the toilet during lunch breaks but he says he forgets or doesn't need it. He also seems completely unfazed by the whole thing which means he's not really making an effort to try and stop it. I am concerned for him that one day someone will notice.
We are very close and talk openly about all sorts of things so I don't believe it's an emotional response to starting secondary school. It doesn't happen often at weekends or evenings, but if we're laughing lots he will suddenly have to dash to the toilet.
I'm currently reluctant to take him to the doctor but not unwilling to do so if it continues. I don't honestly believe it's a medical issue, I think he's just lazy!
Any helpful advice would be appreciated!
Thank you 