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I feel like I'm being attacked

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oldrosie · 02/04/2019 08:49

Hi, I have two stepsons 8 and 11. I also have a daughter from a previous relationship who is 4. I'm really struggling with the boys at the moment with their behaviour - everything they seem to do no matter how big or small I just feel annoyed/agitated by them. I am extremely patient usually but I am sensitive person but at the moment its a sensory overload by their hyper-activeness, not listening to simple instructions, loudness, shouting, wrestling when they should be getting dressed and constant stream of questions and asking for things - its a sensory overload for me - I feel like I'm being attacked. I assume this is normal but I feel like at their ages they should be able to be calmer and quieter when we need them to be. I want them to be able to express them selves and I love their creativity but I feel like they act like toddlers in some ways. My daughter who is four manages to retain instructions and is calmer most of the time. Has anyone got any advice on how to rein this situation in? Is it a phase? How can I cope better? Does anyone get these feelings? I feel like I'm going to blow up!

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HennyPennyHorror · 02/04/2019 08:53

Well I do feel for you. I had my first DD and she was like your DD....quiet, sensible, never shouting or leaping or grabbing...always sedate.

Then I had DD2 and was in for a shock. DD2 is 11 now and SUCH hard work. I find that giving her pocket money for doing jobs helps.

I pin a sheet up with her weekly jobs...one or two for each day. Then she gets paid on Friday.

The jobs are normal things like tidying her room, collecting the eggs from the coop...I'm going to add washing up a couple of times a week too. At 11 she should be able to do that. Maybe instigate a similar thing.

HennyPennyHorror · 02/04/2019 08:54

Meant to add...it helps them understand responsibility. Which hopefully makes them calmer.

I also have a no running in the house rule.

oldrosie · 02/04/2019 09:57

Thank you! This is fantastic advice. I will certainly implement the jobs list. I have tried to get them to do jobs but they get so distract it was more frustrating.

Also - No running the house rule is pure genius, thank you so much.

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