WORRIED ABOUT DS 3YRS TERRIBLE TEMPER TANTRUMS

[runkid]

In the last month my son has been having terrible tantrums when you ask him to do something he doesnt want to do or he wants to do something he cant. He does not like to share much and does not like it if children he does not no come near him.He will throw himself on the floor kicking screaming and shouting and crying. Has anyone else had experience with this.He will also throw his toys etc across the room.

Just about every one is my guess! Some just have them more frequently than others.

My DS is 5 and still behaves like this sometimes. Apparently they grow out of it, just not sure when. I was kind of hoping he would have by now. I do find him a little bit calmer now, the tantrums are still there but are few and far between.

My HV says she wouldnt be expecting him tohave tantrums like this now and it is concerning

Once again, absolute rubbish from a hv. Apols to all the wonderful hvs out there, but Runkid's hv is talking out of the wrong orifice.

The only parents of 3 year olds who reckon their child doesn't have tantrums, are the parents who never spend any time with their dc.

ooh thank god was starting to panic

Your HV is talking rhubarb

DS started having tantrums around 2 and still does at 3.4.

They are a bit different now though, more like screaming fits but he doesn;t get quite so out of control.

My main tactic used to be ignoring and staying cosnsistent with what I was / wasn;t asking him to do, but now I find asking him to go & sit on the stairs to calm down works better.

He wont use toilet either or potty is not interested but he really struggles to poop and i think he holds it in

Try rewards if he manages to use the potty or toilet. Might work and you have nothing to lose.

I had no trouble with DD at all when she was a little. Its only now that she is 8 that she is starting to get a cheeky little madam. She was an angelic child, still is at times.

Mine were all worse at 3 than 2 so your ds sounds normal to me. No easy answers, though, just the usual ignoring, time out etc. It's a long process for some - my ds (just 4) is only now getting himself a bit more under control but he still flips at least a couple of times a week.

Thanx for the advice i will give it ago

Sounds very common. I found ds was more prone to these when tired/hungry/thirsty, so see if you can control them this way.

dh taught ds some 'magic' as ds was apt to tantrum if he couldn't manage to do something. dh told him to smile, then try it again - smiling would work magic & he'd manage it. ds thinks his Dad is now a magician as, sure enough, it worked!

runkid - I am a Mum AND a HV. Trust me - your DS is NORMAL. My DS was still banging his head on the floor in rage when he was 4 and has only stopped in the last six months (and he's only 4.5 now). His rages were earth shaking but have calmed down recently. Is your HV childless? I work with one who is childless and clueless - the crap she comes out with......!

Runkid I would love for your hv to meet my dd2 (3.6)

I am at the end of my tether with her tonight

oh thank you shinysink i was really worried i did wonder if some of it was to do with a new baby in the house and my partner as i havent had a partner since before he was born as he left what do you think. Behaviour has escalated

Terrible twos have nothing on the traumatic threes - much worse with both my boys. My lad has just turned four and is more reasonable as a rule now, though is still prone to lose it if i cut his bread roll the wrong way

kaz33 lol

It is funny whats sets them off