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Been bullied. Struggles to trust new friends.

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Luckymum20 · 08/03/2019 22:21

So this is my first post so please be kind! I have two girl. 7 and 4. They are both very bright. The 7 year old, girl has an almost photographic memory. Can speak many words in several languages. Watch a film once and recite whole scenes from it. She is a lovely caring girl. Very sociable, kind etc. She went to a public school for reception and year 1 and part of year 2. She never really made a friend and was horribly bullied for being "different" so we moved her to a private school. A smaller class. She was often left to her own devices in the other school. When she was 6 they said she had a reading age of 12. Anyway, she struggles to make friends. Two reasons. One - she was bullied at the first school and trusts no one. Second - she is different. She isn't into LOL dolls or charging round the playground. She wants to talk about animals and space etc. She plays at home with her sister, Lego, painting, dressing up. And she has friends outside of school who she is confident around who come round to play. But she is struggling to make friends at school because of past experiences. I encourage her to just "do what they want to do" then next time "you suggest a game" but it doesn't seem to work. She is still resistant. Any suggestions from anyone in a similar situation? Thanks.

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JiltedJohnsJulie · 09/03/2019 08:07

It's horrible when children are struggling like this isn't it.

What strategies does the school have in place for the children who haven't got anyone to play with?

Is there a friendship bench or organised games? Would she be willing to try to join in with the other girls in her class when they are playing?

Can you encourage her to join sone clubs at school too? If they have clubs running at lunch time, this would reduce the amount of time she's on the playground Smile

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