sibling rivalry

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Please could I have some advice? DS1, 2.6, is normally a lovely, gentle, considerate little boy. He genuinely seems to adore his brother, 9months. But whenever they are together he's very rough - sits on him, rolls on him (often with legs in the air, therefore kicking him too), grabs him round the neck etc etc. DS2 inevitably cries- and has lately begun to cry when DS1 comes near him. I have tried explaining I know he doesnt mean to hurt him etc, tried the naughty step etc after warnings, but 5 mins later he's doing it again. I don't want to stop him playing with his brother but I'm at my wits' end. Any advice?

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He's only a baby himself, he probably doesn't realise how rough he is being.

Any punishment for this will only create resentment. Distraction is the key. Sit down with him and play with the baby together. Ask for his help in caring for the baby. Tell him you need your big lad to help you and give him tasks like applying cream - your hand over his to show him how gentle you need to be.

Teach him about gentle. I used some eggs to show ds1 how you have to be so careful with some things.

Make sure he gets lots of time alone with you.

Someone said to me when ds2 was born that I should act cross to ds1 - oh X is being noisy again oh dear what a noise etc. I don't know why they thought that was a good idea but I thought giving ds1 the idea I didn't like the new baby was just asking for trouble!!!!

He is just so little himself and I bet he has got some very confusing feelings. Supervision, intervention, support, teach and 1:1 attention.

I agree with 2penceworth, I have DS1 aged 5 and DS2 aged 5 months, and DS1 can be a little over zelous with the hugs kisses and playing, it's probably a bit easier as he is older and I have told he his baby bro is not as robust and strong as his mates at school, I do notice it increases if he feels a bit left out, juggling the two is hard hard hard, but lots of time with just the 2 of you helps. good luck.