what will happen now?????????????????????

[turquoisenights]

i have 6 yr old dd who is giving me hard time years and years now.
today was the most horrible one.
(i am single mum and broke up from her father because of domestic violence)
i dont think i can take it any more.
she was phsically and verbally abusive to me all day long.
nothing worked.
i dont think we can live like that.
i suspect one neighbor will call the police or social services because of the all shouting, running at home and/or we will be sent out from where we live.
what will happen now?

You need to get some help and quickly. Do you have any friends/family who can give you a break for a while? It sounds like you are very tired and when you are very tired things can seem worse than they really are. You need someone you can talk things over with. Your daughter needs to know that she cannot shout or run away but this is a big issue that I think you need face to face help with. Don't give up - you need help and time to sort this out. xx

this is not life.
in fact it wasnt like a life for a long time.
i dont think i can take it anymore.
i cant ask any friends to look after her, she is torture.
i dont know what will happen.
tomoorow i will talk to behaviour specialist who we were working with for a while and i will tell her that i cant take it anymore, really, it is impossible.

it is nightmare.

no advice as such, just wanted to offer some support. How long has she been with behaviour specialist?

a bit less than a year.

I'm sure it's not impossible - it just seems like it because you are on your own. I am glad you are getting some help. I just wish there were more we could do. You are not alone.

she is hitting me and then laughing.
thats not normal for a 6 old, is it?

Did she see her fsther hit you?

yes, she was 2 yrs 3 months old when she saw it, she was laughing i dont know why.

Don't give her a reaction if she hits you as she probably wants one. Try distracting her. Talk about something she's interested in. Go for a walk in the park with her. Try not to be stuck in the house all day. Make sure she has 3 regular meals and no sugary/junk foods. Just keep loving her which is all you can do when they're 6. But how come she does hit you? If one of mine came over to hit me I'd put up my arm to stop them or grab their shoulder - not hurting but preventing the hitting happening.

she is after my attention i know that.
but i dont want to give my attention to her when she is horrible to me like that.

messages crossed xenia.

i am grabbing her, but she does so often, i cant sit and grab her all the time.
when we go park she has tantrums when leaving etc, so i dont have good memories there.
outside she feels she has control.

i have just made u turn.
we had bad time all day long, she insisted her way, and i insisted my way. because i want her to learn what she does is wrong, and it has consequences.
as i said i made a u turn and said lets be friends like making peace.
she turned to a lamb.

That's lovely. Well done.