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Husband fed up son only wants mummy

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Rojelio · 07/03/2019 19:45

So my husband is really struggling right now that our son (just coming up to 3) will most often only want me to get him dressed / brush his teeth etc etc
I know this can be quite common for children to have a favourite parent but please does anyone have any advice on how we could improve this or is it just something children grow out of?
Thanks

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JiltedJohnsJulie · 07/03/2019 21:09

Does urban DH spend much time with him alone? Does he take him swimming or out to the park for instance?

Rojelio · 08/03/2019 00:00

Thanks for replying, I do more of that but mainly because I work part time but he has always been hands on, takes him out on his bike, makes dens etc
Tonight was my DH turn to read books ( we always alternate) and my son only wanted me to get him dressed for bed but my husband said daddy's getting you dressed tonight so I kept out of it but it resulted in a stand off and no books in the end as a full on tantrum ensued... for me i think my husband can be too stubborn over the small things like that and I don't think it helps.
I don't know really though as like I say he is hands on and tries and I can see it's hard for my DH to not understand why he sometimes won't let him do things, sometimes he will be mostly it's ' I want mummy to do it'

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Lovingbenidorm · 08/03/2019 00:22

I wouldn’t let your son dictate to you like that.
“No! I want mummy to do it” etc
Answer?
“No darling 😬, mummy is (doing whatever) but she’ll be up to kiss you goodnight”
“I want mumeeeeeeee to do it”
Calmly “well daddy is doing it tonight “
“I waaaaaaaaant mummeeeeeeeeeee!!!”
Even more calmly and very understanding “oh ok darling. You don’t want story/bath etc etc tonight. No problem. I love you”
End of
Shut door
Retreat

JiltedJohnsJulie · 08/03/2019 07:06

Pretty much what Loving says. I would definitely get your DH to do sone things with him at the weekend, it will give you a break too.

Rojelio · 08/03/2019 08:02

Thanks for the replies I do admit I did cave and ended up dressing him as I didn't want him to go to sleep in his clothes from the day and it just seemed like such a small issue in the scheme of things but I see that this giving in is just continuing the issue so I'll work on a bit of tough love!

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