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Ok This is a first. dd is away with Brownies for weekend..without me or mum...

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LordPan · 06/07/2007 22:36

Her first time o/night with neither of us..two nights.
Question is...I know she is safe..when I see her on Sunday night..am I 'cool', or..do I smother her with kisses...

What's for best?? Experience please?? I don't have "peer support". Any comments??

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bewilderbeast · 06/07/2007 22:48

smother her with kisses, every little girl wants to know that daddy missed her and is delighted to see her (even if she doesn't show it)

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LordPan · 06/07/2007 22:55

That IS the temptation..but she is 'cool' herself ( at 7 years old..)...and I don't wish to undermine her at all.

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AudreyFforbesHamilton · 06/07/2007 22:56

Cool in public.
Smother in kisses once safely out of sight of any peers.

MaureenMLove · 06/07/2007 22:59

Ah sod it - smother her in kisses! I've done Brownie camp and they all want a kiss for mum and dad when they come to get them!

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LordPan · 06/07/2007 23:01

yep. That sounds like the prefered option!! She would hate it, outwardly..but I reckon she'd be disappointed if I didn't. She is a 'Highly sensitive Child', but I am wishing to set that aside and embarass her thoroughly!!

I am assuming this level of angst is normal.

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LordPan · 06/07/2007 23:03

Maureen! It's me from last week, with your dd off to the cinema, remember? Well, we are here now! I did mention to her mum your comments, and yes, the 'staff' is one-to-two..12 Brownies, 6 leaders.

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MaureenMLove · 06/07/2007 23:05

Sooo normal! My dd has done brownie camp and one guide camp, but only weekends. This monday, she is going away with the school for 5 days!!!! I am beside myself! Not because I'm worried about anything, because I'm not. Its just that I'm not going to be able to speak to her for 5 days! I'll miss her, but tbh, she will be so busy having fun, she won't give two hoots about me!!!

MaureenMLove · 06/07/2007 23:07

Yes, I remember! Guiding is the safest thing she can do - I know the organisation that goes into it.

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LordPan · 06/07/2007 23:11

yes, I know this, and you are so right. I just saw the women leaders at pick up, and wanted to say "Take special care of her!"..she will be fine I know. It's a rite of passage for her..and us!

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Christie · 06/07/2007 23:51

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LordPan · 07/07/2007 00:06

Hello Christie.

It is a bit irrational, but that is waht parenting bits are about, I see!

Her little face crumpled as we waved her off this evening. Her mum normally takes herself off for the weekend when dd is with me, but..this weekend is different. It IS a separation anxiety, I know, but knowing it doesn't help much.

Answer? Just cuddle and kiss her on return, and deal with the flak afterwards!!

thank you all. It's cathartic to type away.

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3littlefrogs · 07/07/2007 06:45

If it is any comfort - dd cried when she came back from brownie camp because she had had such a good time she didn't want to come home.

earlgrey · 07/07/2007 06:52

dd2 (7) is away on Monday for 2 nights on a school trip. It's only a few miles away, but she doesn't know that. I am SOOOOO worried about it, but she can't wait to go. Expect her not to change her knickers, brush her hair, her teeth, shower, or anything like that. And when dd1 went on the same trip, her suitcase stood up on its own when we opened it up.

We went to Paris in half term and I think she's expecting all those creature comforts, together with room service! I think she'll have a bit of a surprise ......

But she did have a whale of a time. Don't forget to pack a disposable camera and show her how to use it.

She'll be fine. Honest.

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LordPan · 07/07/2007 14:59

dd is fairly fastidious about brushing duties...HSC?...I see it now:

Fri. night - "I waaaannt muuuuummmyyyy"

Sat. night - "And who WERE those people?".

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unknownrebelbang · 07/07/2007 15:04

Bet she's having a great time.

First time is really hard, however I love it now when any of the lads are away for a couple of days, makes sooo much difference to the other two. DS1 is in the Peaks this weekend on a scout camp, and it's quite peaceful for a change.

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LordPan · 07/07/2007 15:19

No doubt she is. The other, older girls were great with her, even whilst we waited for the coach.

And it is especially useful for an 'only' child to take every advantage she can to do things with other children. Her best friend didn't want to go, but dd decided to go despite this.

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unknownrebelbang · 07/07/2007 15:24

Absolutely! Although it's a great opportunity for any child to spend time away from home in this way.

Shame about her best friend, but nice to know the older girls were looking after her. Also good for her to spend time with other friends too.

My older two lads are good at looking after the younger ones. (except their own brother, lol)

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LordPan · 08/07/2007 21:08

And I smothered the back of her head in kisses as she sobbed into mum's neck!
She was totally worn out late this afternoon, had a wonderful time, wants to go again, and was fast asleep about 1 hour after getting home.
Thank you all for your comments. Much appreciated.

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unknownrebelbang · 09/07/2007 21:19

So glad she enjoyed herself.

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