DS2 is wetting the bed night after night. Do I put him back in pull ups?

[Pinkchampagne]

He is four, and pretty much took it upon himself to ditch the pull ups around 3 months or so back, because he said he was a big boy!
At first all went ok, but just recently he has been wetting the bed night after night, and I'm forever washing bedding!
What can I do? I try to make sure he doesn't drink too much & goes to the toilet before bed, but he is still waking up wet.
I am starting to feel the need to go back to pull ups, but I guess this would be a bad move, and I expect DS would create at the thought of wearing them again. I've just had enough of piles of smelly washing every day!

Anyone been in this situation?

Take him to the loo when you go to bed. This is what we still do with DS 6 and it mostly works, he won't where a pull up and has never been dry at night.

I will give that a go, although I can see him getting very cross! Do you find it works?

my five year old little girl went throughthat stage i think it was because we moved house! big change for her she just needed time to settle back down again!!!

like geogteach said, i take dd1 to the loo when im going to bed, sometimes i will do twice, once at 10 and then at 12, just to make sure!! usually works!

We moved house 2 months ago, and their dad didn't move with us. I guess all the changes could well be to blame.

could be perhaps he just needs time to settle down and get used to the changes in his life!!!!!

Will try taking him to the toilet when I go to bed tonight. I don't really want to put him back in pull ups because that will knock him back, but there just seems no improvement in the bed wetting atm. Hope the lifting works!!

take him before he goes to bed and perhaps wake him before you go to bed to go to the toilet

I will give that a try tonight, chacha. Thanks for the tip!

let me know how you get on!!!! and good luck!!!! i know how frustrating it can b!

Will report back! I made him go to the toilet under protest before bed (we had big bedtime battles tonight) & I plan to lift him later. Fingers crossed this does the trick & we don't have wet bedding in the morning!

good luck!!!

Pinkchampagne - I have had this prob without any big family changes such as losing Daddy so don't blame that and don't blame yourself or him. Went to enuresis clinic when she was 7. It is much more common than you might think.

A few practical tips:

Get him involved in the work created by his wetting - teach him how to strip the bed and then expect him to do it if he wets.

Praise him for dry nights. Try not to make a big deal out of the bedwetting. It is something that has to be dealt with, not hidden.

Insist on TWO last weewees at his bedtime. Sometimes they don't empty their bladders completely.

The advice from the enuresis nurse I had was not to lift in the night to do another wee. We did do that for a while - not sure if it made a difference or not; she often still wet the bed if we lifted her.

No drinks after last meal of the day, unless he complains of thirst and then only let him have tapwater.

No acidic drinks eg fruitjuice or sweet fizzy drinks for 2 hours before bed. It can irritate the bladder.

Encourage him to drink MORE during the early part of the day.

Thanks for all that, Elasticwoman, lots of really useful advice!

He does get himself changed out of his wet pyjamas straight away, but hadn't thought of encouraging him to help me strip the bed.

Is it ok to give them water before bedtime, or should I try to prevent him from drinking at this time altogether, other than milk?

I never punish him for bed wetting. I had similar problems with DS1 for ages, but he was ok with the pull ups until school age, whereas DS2 wanted rid of them!

Mine are still not out of pull ups sometimes they are dry for ages and ages and ages and then there is a relapse. TBH as he is only 4 could you offer him that if he keeps them dry for 7 nights in a row then he doesn't have to wear them again? Perhaps just say with the wet weather it's very difficult to get the bed linen washed and dried?

Pinkch: I discouraged drinking at bedtime, unless dd was thirsty, and then the best thing for thirst is water. She never asked for milk.

Pull-ups on a child who is dry in the day just shelves the problem, doesn't solve it.

Your hv will probably have information about the enuresis clinic, but in our area children were not referred till about age 7.

Thanks for the advice.

Have managed dry nights all weekend, but know there is likely to be another relapse.

He does like to drink a lot & will often ask for a drink at bedtime, but I have tried cutting back on them & offering only milk as bedtime approaches.

I really don't want to put him back in pull ups if I can avoid it.

Hi hope I meet the criteria?? I'm a Nana that would like to help my daughter train her 5.5 yr old to stay dry at night. We have tried all the obvious things like no drinks but water after a certain time, lifting her, rewarding her for not wetting etc etc there's another grandchild on the way and it would be great to kick this in to touch before s/he arrives

Lifting at 10.30 - 11.00 worked for us. When they were too heavy to carry to loo and back we stopped! Everyone dry by 7 years! If they didn't pee much at 11.00 it was cue to stop lifting as well. I suppose if we had persisted with wet beds they would have been dry in the end though, but we decided it wasn't worth the bad emotions.

dd is 6 and we still only have about 3 nights a week with dry nappies
I am not worried about it I figure she will do it when she is ready