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anyone else's baby went through wonder weeks leaps early?

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Mummymummymummmeeeee · 20/02/2019 20:41

Just curious to know if anyone else following the wonder weeks has experienced this?
DS2 seems to have gone through leaps 5 to 7 two months early, leap 4 was about a month early, not sure about leaps 1 to 3 as I didn't have the book then.
I didn't follow wonder weeks for DS1 but was aware of it and he seemed to more or less fit with the timings - he went through hardcore sleep regressions that seemed to fit with the timings of the fussy phases. I decided to get the book for DS2 as I thought it would be good to have a heads up for when sleep regressions were ahead to plan trips away and things around it, I also thought it would be nice to know what new skills to look forward to to make it easier to get through the hard times!
Luckily DS2 doesn't go in for such serious sleep regressions as DS1 as the book hasn't been any use for predicting when leaps will be! But he seems to be doing all the leaps in order but just completely off with all the timings. He's not doing anything particularly prodigious, just normal baby things but ahead of when they're predicted in wonder weeks.
Just wondering if any one else has experienced this - particularly curious to know if your children ended up brighter than average from being ahead, or particularly good at sports from the early physical development. I'm guessing that 2 months ahead will actually just average out and not be so far ahead as he gets older, but I'm clutching at straws to try and help me through as the fussy period for leap 8 seems to have started!! Grin

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surreygirl1987 · 21/02/2019 20:28

I know some people swear by the wonder weeks but I personally find it a load of rubbish. I know this view isn't shared by all and that's fine. I just think babies' development is at their own pace and can't be mapped out so specifically. Plus they fuss for all sorts of reasons. I wouldn't spend too much time thinking about it - just enjoy your baby!

Witchend · 21/02/2019 22:50

Relax and ignore such stuff and nonsense.

Babies develop at different times, in different ways.
Mine developed very differently. On the whole (they're teens now) they're pretty similar in physical and academic ability.

Witchend · 21/02/2019 22:51

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Mummymummymummmeeeee · 22/02/2019 22:05

I do think there's something in it because it's been spookily accurate for DS2 in terms of the new skills that he suddenly develops after a fussy week or two. I was staying with my parents during leap 5 and my mum (who has never heard of the wonder weeks) noticed the sudden overnight change that he was suddenly holding himself sitting independently and using his hands more skillfully - he had started using the pincer grasp and using both hands together to hold and manipulate toys, and he was suddenly better at napping again after a difficult week.
The way that he's fussy at the moment is just different to the way he was fussy with teething last month - he just seems too wired to fall asleep easily for naps and bedtime and is waking up at 4am full of beans to start the day Confused
I think the concept of wonder weeks helps though just knowing to wait it out and it should right itself!

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surreygirl1987 · 23/02/2019 00:31

Yes- when they are learning a new skill they often are fussy, that much is true. However, I don't subscribe to the idea of a specific schedule, with defined 'stormy' and 'sunny' weeks... Someone is making a lot of money pedalling that idea! Babies develop at different rates and are far more complex - there are thousands of reasons a baby might be fussy at any given time.

Mummymummymummmeeeee · 23/02/2019 09:12

The wonder weeks does allow for babies to be complex and develop at different rates. It describes mental leaps that babies go through that change their understanding of the world and make new skills possible, the skills wouldn't have been possible before the leap, but it's individual to each baby how they respond to the mental leap and which skills they experiment with first.
For example when my DS2 went through leap 7 (understanding sequences) - before leap 7 any time he was eating anything with a spoon he would cry or fuss every time that I took the spoon from him until he had it back with more food on, even if he had passed it to me himself. He also would have been happy to have his empty spoon back. The overnight change that I noticed after the stormy week with leap 7 was that at breakfast he started experimenting with the sequence of events to get more food on his spoon - he tried passing it to me with his left or right hand, passing it from one hand to another and then to me, putting it on his tray, even throwing it at the floor! Eventually he settled on handing it to me, and he hasn't cried or fussed about it since because he understands the sequence of events for getting more food on his spoon. Leap 7 also makes it possible for them to start saying their first 'words' eg. 'ba' for ball, but DS2 didn't start experimenting with 'words' until a month later when he was ready to in his own time.
The wonder weeks does seem to be true for DS2 at least in terms of having stormy weeks and sunny weeks with mental leaps, but it seems that the timing of the leaps obviously isn't as rigid as the book suggests!

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surreygirl1987 · 24/02/2019 20:13

Yes - the order is logical but I think you have hit the nail on the head where you say the timing of the leaps isn't as rigid as the book says. I find that people like to have the reassurance of a 'guide' so they look for signs that their child is 'on track'. Of course if you look for such signs you will generally find them to some extent. Some babies it might be bang on, others won't be.

Mummymummymummmeeeee · 27/02/2019 20:13

I don't think wonder weeks is the best guide to see if babies are on track - it lists the earliest you can expect them to do something rather than the latest - eg. I think it says that they can walk from 6 months old - not realistic for most babies!

I was hoping for a guide to tell me when the sunny times would be to plan trips away and returning to work and that sort of thing around. Even though it hasn't worked out for that I've kept following it as I just find it interesting to have an insight into how my babies mind is working and to see how it changes and it often explains some of his odder behaviour too! I get what you mean about having to look for the signs to see them though - leaps 4 and 5 DS2 showed obvious changes that anyone would notice, but leap 6 (categories) the only change at first was that he seemed to be examining his toys much more closely. So I did wonder if I was imagining it as the leaps seemed to be getting earlier and earlier at that stage. But then a couple of weeks later he was playing with some farm toys and decided that he would only put toy horses in the barn, I passed him cows and sheep and other animals too, but he only wanted to put horses in!
DS2 is a generally sunny baby and his wonder weeks fussy times only seem to last a week or two so I guess it's fairly obvious with him when it's happening and then I'll see the changes. He seems to have finished the fussy phase for leap 8 now so we're at least all getting more sleep now Smile

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DelphiMum · 28/02/2019 22:07

It’s nice to have an app telling you your baby is just going through a phase. It makes it physiologically easier to cope with the crying! Aside from that the specificity of the leaps is OTT.

Mummymummymummmeeeee · 01/03/2019 13:20

Yes definitely, I wish I'd known about the wonder weeks when DS1 had his 4 month sleep regression! He actually did it right on schedule as well!

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