Baby

[BBear]

Can anyone advise me - my 9 week old "talks" from 3am - and loudly - I can hardly sleep (even with two earplugs in) He is quite happy murmuring/gurgling and saying ahhh and I think he's asleep for most of the time as he then starts properly shouting for his feed at 5am . I don't engage with him (avoid eye contact and just pat and shhh or change the nappy in near darkness when he seem awake) but he never stops! I have recently started doing a dreamfeed bet 10 and 11pm in the hope that I might get some more sleep (I have Multiple Sclerosis and am getting so overtired I'm in danger of relapse) Has this disrupted his sleep (he normally feeds at 2-3 am then 4-6am) He's more chatty in the day too (all my fault as I'm a chatterbox. Help! any advice please!! I don't want to put him in another room with baby monitor but as he is getting louder and louder chatting but I'm desperate....

Do you have/could you get a lullaby music thingy which is activated by your son's voice or cd of calming sea/whale noises or similar? Perhaps gentle soothing music would send him back off before he gets into a more awake sleep pattern!

That's amazing he's so vocally active so young - you must be chuffed (well apart from at night when you're trying to sleep!).

dd was the same and dh thought it was cute

i did put her i her own room but it was fine and we all got more sleep

but if your dh is not bothered, could you go in another rtoom and leave the boys to it?

OOh - is is young to be so chatty - he's only started it in the last week or so. Nearly fainted when he said a loud "hi" and smiled at me rather proudly when I was changing his nappy. What is the voice activated lullaby gadget? Will try the all night classical music CD again tonight to see if it works. First time mum and was told it's not okay to leave them in their own room so young? Daddy is right in the middle of a big job so it's Mummy doing all night at the mo... thanks

I have to say, my DS did similar, though was a bit older. He would chat loudly after his 4/5 am feed, and I'm afraid I moved him out of our room at 3 months. He was perfectly happy in his own room, was in reality only a few feet further away, with the doors open, but it meant DH and I got some sleep!

Obviously current advise says not to move them out till 6 months, but a lot on people do, IME.

I know BBear - we had a Florry Fimble Lullaby soft toy which did a long circuit of soothing songs in DS' cot in our room (I was humming it in my sleep!). Lullabies better than crying/gurgling!

Also, you can get a Winnie the Poo voice activated thing from Argos/Toys R Us. I think it fixes to the cot and detects movement. Maybe google it or actually look too at Blooming Marvellous/Jo Jo Maman Bebe websites.

I had a similar kind of problem with ds snoring, grunting and throwing himself round his cot all apparently in his sleep. We stuck rigidly to the guidelines and kept him in our room for 6 months, I was a zombie the whole time. Nothing worked to quieten him. If it happened again I would get an angelcare monitor (that lets you know if the baby stops breathing) and put him in another room. Up to you of course, maybe you'll find something that works to keep him in with you.

Have to say I put ds in own room at 10 weeks so I could get some sleep - every hour he woke me up but when I looked at him he was fast asleep. Part of me felt so guilty a few weeks later that he wasn't in with us but at least I was getting some sleep.
Does dh sleep through it? If so could you do a couple of nights sleeping in another room and dh brings him to you for feeds? I was doing this about 1 night /week. Also, after the feed that I knew he would go to 7am from I would leave the room and sleep on the sofa, allowing me to maybe get 2 or more hours uninterupted. If he did cry then dh was there to soothe him (and the earplugs stayed in even in another room!)
I don't know what else to suggest if you want to keep him in your room and are already wearing ear plugs - sorry!

(Have assumed Daddy's big job allows him 24 hours off in a week so he could do 1 night and catch up the next day)