Help - 10mth old now hysterical whenever she goes in her cot!!!!!

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My 10 mth old has been a pretty good baby/sleeper all along. Until recently she would happily go her cot for naps, would go down awake and easily settle at night, and would happily play in it whilst I have a shower in a morning.

However, the past few weeks this has gone t*ts up! She screams and I mean screams whenever you put her in her cot. If she's not sleeping in it I do distingush this by adding toys to cot and opening blinds etc. Its awful hearing her cry when I know that she is so tired, its like she is scared or something. We have started leaving light on dim at night but makes no difference.

Is this a phase they go through???

My DD (15 months) has been the same for the last week but she's teething. I recall it affecting her like this during previous teething bouts. I least I hope its just a phase!

my dd, (11 months this weeekend) has been like that for a couple of weeks. she screams with temper whenever I leave her alone in her cot, and knows that being put in the cot is the start of being left alone. she is a willful little thing and I think its the thought of me doing my own thing while she has to sleep that winds her up. I let her vent her frustrations and only go in of it turns to a "i've just headbutted the cot really hard" cry. she is usually asleep within 2 mins, 5 max, but it can be a long 5 mins hearing her cry. I have to remind myself that if I give into her I will never be able to leave her side again. she is also teething by the way, but i really think its more a seperation anziety thing with her.

i've had to abandon putting in the cot while I shower though, she really couldn't tell the difference betowen that and nap time (even with curtains open and toys...) she now stands at the shower cubical with her face and hands pressed up against the glass banging and shouting cos she can see me! Can't wait for her to get bored of that trick....

Perhaps she is scared - a lot of babies are insecure at this age. Can you co-sleep? Let her go to sleep on you?

Thanks for messages.

I think she is scared I'm leaving her which doesn't help as I'm back to work in 5 weeks!!!

Think I might allow her to cruise round the bathroom while I'm in shower though. I'll be able to see her and at least its on less crying session we'll have to endure!

I have let her go to sleep with me on a couple of occasions when she really wouldn't settle. I just worry that she'll not go back to settling on her own if we make a habit of it though...

No child co-sleeps forever. It is an excellent way to get through insecure patches even if you don't want to do it all the time.

Mine went through 3 weeks of screaming every night at 9 months and then recently for about a week at 14months. Just rode it out with controlled crying technique. I think gnu is right about the teething making it worse. Hopefully it's just a phase and she will be settling herself again soon.

my 10 month is exactly the same.he goes to sleep in his own cot but halfway through the night realizes he is alone and starts screaming.the moment i pick him up, he is all quiet and sleeps soundly in our bed.
they are going through separation anxiety at this stage and it is amazing how secure they feel lying next to you.i think it is a passing phase and we must enjoy it.
i love sleeping with my baby`s hand on my chest and his head on my shoulder!

DD ended up in our bed last night!! On the up side to my reservations about this she slept till 8 this morning!!!