Bully big brother

[lizzlebizzle33]

Ds1 is almost 3 and ds2 is 15 months, it took a fair while for ds1 to accept ds2 as part o the family, we had a couple of biting incidents and some hitting too which he was told off for.
Things seemed to get a lot better but now ds2 is walking we have taken a step back again. He is forever pushing him over, sometimes just a nudge and other times really hard.

Poor ds2 clearly loves his brother and just wants to join in and play with him. I am so fed up of telling him off, it's really getting me down, I probably cry every day. I just don't know what to do.

Is it a phase?
Is it my fault?
Is this just "what boys do"?

Definitely not just "what boys do".

I think you're right to pull him up on it every single time. He can't keep on like this.

Have you seen Calm Parents, Happy Siblings? It might help

My daughter did that properly jeolous as not been treated as baby no more

He is not a bully, nor is it a "thing that boys do". He is a small boy who is jealous of his cute little brother getting all the attention- while you probably see him as bigger than he is because of the contrast with little brother.

Yes, you need to pull him up on it every time- both for the sake of the youngest and for his own. It's not good for him to know he can hurt his little brother: he needs the security of feeling that you will stop him.

But you also need to try to be proactive, keep an eye on them so situations don't arise in the first place (difficult, I know, when the youngest one is already mobile). There was a time when my dd (so not just boys!) was 3 and I didn't dare to leave them alone in the room- so wherever I went one of them had to go, even if it was to the loo.

You also of course need to make time for the older child and ensure that he gets a chance to be a little too if he wants to- as well as being allowed to feel special because he is the big one. It's hard work- but it will pass.