5month old tantrums

[Doll87]

I need advice or some reassuring,
My 5 month old little girl will show interest in toys (rattles, teethers etc) but after about 5mins if touching and pulling up to her mouth, she bursts into tears, screaming so hard it's as if she's broken a bone or something! She gets so upset, I'm assuming out of frustration or anger that she can't quite get her hands to do what she wants them to do with the toys, it takes me ages to calm her down. Sometimes the only thing that will calm her down is putting her on the boob.
It's worrying me a little bit because firstly, it means she's pretty reliant on me constantly there to calm her, and secondly, I'm avoiding giving her toys etc to play with incase of a screaming fit which is hard when we go to baby playgroups etc. I see lots of other babies playing with toys and enjoying it...I'm not sure what's going on.
Anyone else had this with their little one?

My son did this ALOT. However I allowed him to feel frustrated as it's completely natural feeling. I allowed him to calm himself down. It's important that she learns to calm herself down. You're not going to always be there to make her stop crying. Frustration is a normal, human feeling. And In fact now it's probably got worse as when she gets frustrated she expects you to calm her down and if you don't she'll continue to cry. Just talk to her, be there with her and explain things to her. Talk to her, for example she starts crying. Step back for a few minutes and see if she calls herself down. If she doesn't then start talking to her. Ex: did that frustrate you? How about we play with something else now." And offer her a different toy or do something different with her. No need to breastfeed just to calm her down as this will develop a bad habit.

She's five months old. Just cuddle her, BF her or whatever it takes to help her recover. You don't create bad habits by comforting tiny babies. They genuinely need someone to respond to their distress and help soothe them. It's that nurturing response from a familiar carer that enables them to develop normally.

Don't worry about tantrums. In order to be tantruming, she would have to understand the impact her screaming might have on you. She's too young to do that. She is simply expressing her distress in the olny way she knows how.

It may be worth getting the GP or HV to look her over in case the distress is caused by pain.

In the meantime, just follow your instincts (you have them for a reason) and do whatever it takes to comfort her when she needs it.

Thank you, that's all good advice and reassuring.

Perhaps it's her personality developing and she's just extremely strong willed (which wouldn't surprise me as both me and DH are very head strong), and so get distressed when unable to understand or do something. It's just hard to watch other babies figure out with perhaps a little winge and then my little howler scream the place down.

I've been avoiding giving her toys and instead giving her soft toys like Muslins, teddies, soft comforters to play with, but perhaps I'll perceiver with teethers etc at home (when it's just us and I don't have the tutting of strangers or disapproving glances off others) lol.