My 5 year old is having a few behavioural issues at school. He only started last Sept but recently he's been quite boisterous with other kids. I've arranged a meeting with the school. They have said it's fine they are talking with him and they are monitoring it. At home we're doing the marble jar and flat out not tolerating any kicking/pushing of his brother. And if I see him getting a bit rough with friends taking him aside and telling him to play gently etc. I don't know if this is normal or not as he's my first. I know boys in particular do a lot more play fighting. It just seems my son goes a bit overboard. He wasn't like this at all pre school. More the other way, very shy and good natured.
Anyway at the start of the year he said another boy was being mean to him fighting him etc. I told him if it happens to say stop, go tell a teacher and to keep talking to me. All seemed to settle down - ie he didn't mention it. It actually turned around and he said they were getting on now which I was pleased about.
Fast forward to now and this lad is coming round for a play date but I don't know whether to cancel it or not. I think he's influencing my sons naughty behaviour. I didn't realise my sons behaviour was an issue till after I'd arranged this play date. I've recently seen this lad play and he's a bit wild, very pushy and uses swear words. Thing is, he's also only 5, and I feel mean going back on my word. It could be nothing to do with him why my sons behaviour has got worse too. But also I don't really want to encourage my son playing with someone who is not that well behaved.
I thought I'd just go ahead with this play date, then nip it in the bud and keep on encouraging decent behaviour from my son with the school. Does this sound like the right thing to do?