Wild Kids

[kkgirl]

Went out to a card party with a friend last night.
Sat there horrified as her ex Nanny was describing her latest job. She said that the children were rude, swear, and generally obnoxious.
I felt very uncomfortable as the behaviour she described sounded just like our children.
I tried to justify it to myself, as the nanny doesn't have children of her own and has mainly looked after pre school children before. She was surprised that the 6 year old boy was still having tantrums and kicking things. In my household this is a common occurence and I wanted to ask her how she would deal with this, but didn't want to admit it sounds familiar.

She was blaming a lot of the behaviour on computer games ie Grand Auto Theft and other violent games.

I just wanted to add that I think games such as grand auto theft should be banned. What example is it setting to children?

Blossomhill

I agree that it is not setting a good example to children, but as much as you try to stop them playing it, they still can.

My oldest DS is not allowed to play it at home, but I found out that he has played it round at a friends, so what can you do, if they are out and about you don't have any control over them, and the family he was with are nice, I was surprised that they let their son play it, thats if they knew of course!!

I understand it's harder when your children get older. My eldest is nearly 7 so I can still control a lot of what he does. It's just a friend of mine has a game for her 11 year old and it's some kind of pimping game where you have to find girls and get them to lapdance? How can any parent condone that?
God knows what my son will get up to in his teens when I am not around. One things for sure he won't be doing things like that in my house!

Blossomhill

God, thats just as shocking as the GAT isn't it? Who thinks up these horrible games.

Kids seems so advanced today, thats what scares me. I did lead a very sheltered live i know, and was very naive, so I'm glad that there is openess these days, but children have the knowledge of grown ups, but not the maturity, the thought of what they could get up to scares me, and you can't control them forever. DS1 is 10 now and is out and about, I find it very hard to let go and to keep for interrogating him about his every move.

Oh god kkgirl I've got this all to come haven't I? My nearly 7 year old is so un-touched by things at themoment but I know over the next couple of years this will all change
It was only a few weeks ago he came home and asked me what a d* head was.

Blossom hill

Enjoy it while you can!!!!
Although your DS might be a child that doesn't change. He sounds lovely.
I do accept that my children are very forward, ( and I don't mean bright!) and headstrong.
I am worried about DS1 as he has such a mouth on him, he will act the big am, and I have told him to be careful who he mouths off to as he is likely to get a wallop.

I have noticed that some of DS's friends are more sensitive and untouched.

Thanks kkgirl. He is quite sensitive but in the last couple of months has become a bit lippy. Talking to all his friend's mums they are all the same!
Hope you manage to get some advice on here soon

Blossomhill

Thanks for your messages.

I don't really want any advice as such, it just shocked me a bit that this nanny was so upset about the behaviour. I think probably as she hasn't had children and usually looks after younger ones, then she hasn't come across it. It has pulled me up a bit and I am going to try hard to encourage a lot more loving and good behaviour amongst my family