Possible signs of adhd? Help please

[LStrawberry]

I have a 5 year old little boy who started school in September and I was pulled into school by his teacher to discuss him maybe having adhd. I’ve googled this and I see only a few signs such as he struggles with concentration and he’s on the go constantly. He also doesn’t always hear / listen. I’m now super stressed,crying most days & searching google religiously. I have rang the doctors to get him booked in to be seen but from looking at google they won’t diagnose him as he’s only just turned 5. I am willing to pay for him to go privately so I can have him seen and get the answers that we need. But can anyone with a child with adhd please give me what’s it like to have a child with adhd so I can compare simalarities as I’m currently racking my brains out. Sorry for the long post. Can I please just add the teacher has told me he has lots of friends, isn’t falling behind and is totally on target but he does like to chew things and always has and is quite the fidget bum and this is the only reasons she’s came to the conclusion of him having possibly having adhd.

It’s not a bad thing , adhd can make them less academic than others but not always . When mine first was diagnosed I was shocked and upset but I realised that ADHD is what made my DD her. Mine is academic and has friends too. Later in life you will find he probrably will succeed in English and rs but not in science as it requires a good memory . They can have huge meltdowns and you will have a lot of trouble in school about shouting out , talking but they are good kids and school should make reasonable adjustments

Mine was spotted very early. [18 months by CAHMS] and formally diaognosed as such by teir 3 CAHMS by 2.

The big clues for ADHD included:
Almost no sleep [ 4 hours in any 24 hour] and no signs of sleep deprivation.
Was so active from birth even as a newborn he was trying to roll.
Adventerous risk taking from as soon as he could move like climbing out of a window and up onto the roof so he could get closer to the stars.
Could problem solve all the child locks in the CDC at 18 months inc the more secure area keypads.
Tendancy to leapfrog from one random idea to the next.
Constant switching between activities but with high focus to the exclusion of all else when engaged in activity.
Very poor frustration level with anyone he thought was 'thick'.
None existant tolerance level for doing any task that did not engage him.
Would start a task but would be bored and want to do the next one but would get bored and..........

Always moving be it low grade fidgetting to leaping over the top bannister of the stairs and landing like a cat in the hall.
Almost none stop wall of noise.
Left anyone who had him for more than five minutes feeling like they had had a close encounter with a whirlwind.

However early diaognosis gave him access to a special nursary from 2. A statement that helped him move to mainstream for Reception. Occupational theraphy and speech theraphy [that really helped with the frustration] and a school that would work with tier 3 CAHMS. [He was the youngest they had diaognosed and the second worst for how badly it wa simpacting his ability to learn and develop.

With the right mix of support and a Ed. Statement he began to settle and make progress. By the end of school he had enough life skills and secured himself an advanced apprenticeship off his own bat. He found a way to make his interests and drive work. He is in fulltime work, studying a degree and picking up other qualifications as he goes.

My dd sounds similar to tribal but not as extreme.
She also wouldnt sleep as a newborn even at hospital. Only bf worked. Would wake easily.
Was very hard to keep safe as a toddler.
She is now mainly inpulsive.
Exactly the same re changing activity all the time. Would never sit for the story ever.
Very demand resistant so may have pda/odd.
But she is very bright so may be that she just didnt need to concentrate on one thing or is taking too much input in which is tiring.
Isnt chewing more a sensory thing?

Impulsive most of all. Never could work out there would be consequences to actions.