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How would you deal with this?

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Weegle · 29/06/2007 15:21

At soft play (yup, you can see where this is heading)... DS 12 months crawls down a tunnel where ALL the soft play pieces and balls have been barracaded into a den by 2 boys approx 3 and 4. DS climbed on to one of the pieces which had fallen down from their "wall". Bigger boy tries to pull it out from him. I say "don't pull it away from him, he's playing with it, we need to share". The boy said "No it's ours, he can't have it" and carried on tugging. So I said again "no, these things are here for everyone, you need to share". The child ignored me, and pushed my son and made him cry. I said "that's naughty" but took my son away because I couldn't see how else to handle it. About 5 minutes later I saw a similar interchange with another little one (but no mum present like I was with DS), and then again another one a few minutes later which made the little girl cry. All in they blocked the tunnel for about half an hour and had complete monopoly on all the pieces and balls for the air machine. (gee this is sounding trivial). Anyway, how would you have dealt with this? I'm not sure I'm giving my son the right message by saying you let the "bully" (can't think of a better word so please don't flame me) get their own way.

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LucyLu1981 · 29/06/2007 15:31

Were they boy's parents around? If so think I would have been tempted to speak to them about it

lemonaid · 29/06/2007 15:34

Found a member of staff, probably.

Lizzylou · 29/06/2007 15:38

Found a member of staff.

Have been to soft play this lunchtime and some little boy pinched my DS1 on the arm really hard, making him cry, his Mom said NOTHING , even though she was right there and saw it happen. Both boys around 3 years old (other boy and my DS), so know right from wrong. DS1 said "That boy pinched me" all I could say was "Well thats not very nice, lets go and play somewhere else" and his MOm looked at me as if I was mad!

I hate soft play, they are playgrounds of Satan.

Weegle · 29/06/2007 16:06

Couldn't identify the mum - so no not obviously around. It hadn't even occured to me to get a member of staff, shall remember that!

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lucyellensmum · 29/06/2007 16:23

yep - i hate soft play to, went there out of desperation on sunday - children like animals (for some reason this particular one is worse than the others, not sure why) older children in the under three play areas, we stayed 20 minutes and left.

lucyellensmum · 29/06/2007 16:24

i know what it is, its those bloody fruit shoots, they are everywhere in those places, lucky for me DD only likes water else i imagine id have to be scraping her down from the ceiling too

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