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4yo picking on his 1yo sister

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GlitteryFluff · 07/01/2019 20:58

My 4year old is the loveliest little boy to everyone except his sister who turned one a few days ago. He snatches toys from her, teases her with things then moves them so she can't get them, pushes her away if she touches him, gets cross with her if she touches anything of his etc just picks on her.
It's been going on since she started crawling so about 4 months.

Tonight we caught him about to shut the baby gate on her. I assume he opened it to tease her - making it seem like he was letting her go out and then shutting it on her last minute.

I don't know how to make him be kind to her. He's just horrible to her, yet is so lovely to everyone else.

He gets to play a game of an evening if he has behaved well during the day. This gets taken away if he is continuously mean to her despite several warnings to stop. I know it should be instant consequences so we have started to do time out again. At the mo it's not doing much but haven't been doing it for long.

He was diagnosed with autism last summer.
But it doesn't tend to affect day to day stuff. He 'fits in' pretty well - we don't have any obvious issues. Unless this is an autism thing. But I assume this is a 'most kids' thing.

Any ideas on how to tackle it? Is it just a phase?

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GlitteryFluff · 07/01/2019 21:05

Do you let your kids snatch toys from each other because you can't referee forever, and soon the little one will start doing it back? And only discipline for stuff like pushing her and teasing her?

He's such a good kid other than behaviour towards his sister.

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GlitteryFluff · 08/01/2019 09:49

Bumping in the hope someone has a bright idea!

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