5 year old not doing what she's told

[lyssie29]

Any tips? She was always a good girl if a little hyper at times but recently she just point blank refuses to do what she's asked. She's asked nicely and if she doesn't do it I take away a treat or video time but it doesn't seem to be working. She doesn't just do it to me she does it with other family members too and is cheeky to them and me. What can I do to stop this behaviour?

[JiltedJohnsJulie]

One thing we’ve found that works with our DD is to say that we’ll bring bedtime forward by 10 minutes. That usually gets her to think about things a bit more

Have you tried Calm Parents, Happy KIds? The kindle version is on offer at the moment at 99p.

[lovely36]

Hm.. im more of a tough mom. If I ask my son to do something I expect him to do it the first time and if he doesn't I tell him one more time that either he does what he's told or I'm going to pick him and take him to where I need him to go so he needs to choose. I don't have time to be asking 5/6 times like it's a game. When I say something he needs to listen point blank I don't give him an opportunity not to. I speak to him very respectful and I ask very kindly but very stern. There's been times when he was younger when I would ask him to clean up for example and he would ignore me so I would literally go up to him and get down to his level and look at him face to face and tell him very sternly that I just asked him to do something. If he didn't listen then then I would tell him to choose. Ex: either you go put all those toys away or they get put away for good. Some days he says "you put them away." 😂 and I said. Ok fine by me. Those toys were gone for good. If he asked for them I said, nope you chose for me to put them away for good, next time choose wisely. I've been this way since he was one and he could start walking so he's pretty well behaved. Gotta start young lol