Help me 'like' my dd1 age 7

[shagirl]

Sounds awful but I'm finding it really hard to get one with dd1. We clash at every moment & end up falling out. I know I'm just stooping to her level & acting like a child myself but every thing she does really winds me up & unfortunatley I end up loosing it with her, this morning I am really ashamed to say I told her I hated her & didn't want to be in the same room as her, just what sort of terrible mother am I?
I just want to have a really great loving relationship with her but she knows just how to wind me up.
How can I break this cycle please!!

We all go through times like this with our children. Try not to beat yourself up about what has already happened and aim to be more positive tomorrow. All children go through difficult phases, and you might be telling us how lovely she is next year!

My dd1 is 7 too, so I know exactly what you are on about here..in my house we call it 'sevenitis'
I think you've just got to ride through the storm TBH, do your best and when you fuck-up, apologise. No-one's perfect

Go in to her bedroom and have a look at her while she is sleeping.

Thanks guys, Spudmasher I'd probably cry seeing her asleep as I'm so emotionally all over the place with our relationship!

And what's wrong with a good long cry? Does me the power of good sometimes. You can draw a line and start afresh tomorrow.

Do you get much time alone with her?(Presumably you have at least one other child)

I find it a bit hard to get along with my dd1 at times, but it really helps to have one-to-one time with her doing activities like crafts, baking etc, when dd2 is asleep or at playgroup.

Well poor dd1 has to contend with 2 younger dd's so I guess she does have the hardest time of it, especially as the younger 2 aren't at school yet.
Sobernow - dd2 is also just like my dh and is the most calm & chilled out child I've come across! Even though dd3 is only 18 mths she is showing signs of being the same as dd1 in character - oh dear!!