Behaviour strategies for 1 year old

[Curiousdad18]

Hi Folks,

So compared to other people's problems here this may seem insignificant but I need some advice.

DD is 1 in a few days and is a lovely happy confident baby. But she's at the point where's she's into everything she shouldn't be and I need some simple strategies to stop her doing things I don't want her to do. Or failing that book recommendations

At the minute I just say No! very firmly and remove her from whatever she's doing. If she keeps at it I keep doing this. I'm not sure if I'm expecting too much or if at 1 she should be paying attention to us or not.

For background I grew up in a house where I was never praised, was always a problem and frankly got beaten black and blue on a regular basis. It's taken me 20 years to get over this as it destroyed my confidence and made me very anxious in social situations.

I absolutely don't want to repeat it with my daughter but at the same time I don't want to be too far the other way and be too 'soft'

Also my DW is not from UK and comes from a culture where parenting is much more 'loose' than in the UK so I feel like I'm always the 'bad cop' stopping my daughter running wild (as I see it). How should I approach this with DW - at the minute she says there's no problem but I'm anxious that if we don't do something then we're storing up problems for the future.

Thanks for any replies.

Your child is 1, she’s supposed to be doing things she shouldn’t, that’s how she learns. She’s also allowed to legitimately run wild, if you can’t as a kid when can you...

Lots of research has shown for the first few years of a child’s life they are better if they are just distracted/removed. Say “no”, remove her from the danger, and play a game or do something else with her.

I’m sorry you had a bad experience with your parents, but maybe being led by your DWs more liberal approach might be good for you to see. People worry so much about what they do affecting their children, when really keeping them safe and helping them be happy are all that really matters

What exactly don't you want her to do? It's very important that you onl stop her from doing things that are absolutely not allowed for example playing with the cooker or grabbing chemicals. Because if you're constantly telling not do touch things or do things she then stops listening. I allow my son to literally touch, climb, go whoever he wants as long as it's not dangerous or it's something he absolutely can't have. As a result, since he's pretty much touched everything and climbed on erythjng by now he really rarely ever touches anything he's not suppose to because I guess he's been there done that. Where as his cousins his age still go wild because their parents are constantly telling them not to do things. Let her be. Let her climb, touch, pull whatever she wants. That's the only way for her to learn