Help me improve my daughters behaviour and fix our relationship

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I don't know where to start this, but I need advice!
My 5 year old daughter is relentless with her talking, and I feel like I am going insane! She talks from the minute she wakes up to the minute she goes to sleep, and if I ask her to be quiet (while eating dinner for example) she seems to find this impossible. She also answers back, constantly, and hardly ever does as she's told. I've tried walking away, punishment (no tv, naughty step, bedroom for 5 minutes, no tablet etc.) and nothing works.
When she goes to bed for example I say it's quiet time now, and she talks for another ten minutes! If I don't listen she screams and cries and I end up losing my temper, and shouting. It's a viscous cycle and I'm well aware of that (I'm not very tolerant in general) but I don't know where to begin to get things good! It's getting to the point where I would rather be at work sometimes, and I don't want to feel like that. Someone please give me some advice!!

Anyone?

If she talks constantly, is she impulsive in other ways? Is she quick to anger for example?

Answering back and not doing what she’s told must drive you mad too. I can recommend Calm Parents, Happy Kids.

What's wrong with her always talking? I'm trying to understand what she's doing wrong

Perhaps music in the background at mealtimes that you can both hum/ sing to so that you are not sitting in silence, I hate silence myself. Also at bedtime try putting an audiobook on for her so she's not left feeling lonely, my children are much more willing to go straight to bed if they are offered an audiobook to listen to (as was I when I was a child).

Nothing wrong with her talking, as such but it is literally ALL day. Add in the answering back, and not doing as she's told and it's driving me mad. Sometimes talking isn't necessary, and she literally talks for the sake of talking.

Thanks BeeMyBaby, may try an audio book, or maybe music. We don't sit in silence per se, and I don't want that, but it means she doesn't eat, as she's just talking for the sake of it. She literally says 'mummy' and then sits and thinks of something to say, same when she goes to bed.

Our local library is signed up to overdrive (an app which lets you download audiobooks at home for up to 3 weeks for free with a child's library card)- maybe check if your library uses it too or something similar?

It sounds like she’s delaying bedtime. If it’s time for bed and she’s purposely thinking of things to say, then just say “It is bedtime now, that means no more talking until the morning”, or something along those lines, if she cries and screams, I’d just be inclined to ignore it and pull her door to, otherwise you end up getting more frustrated by staying, keep consistent and it should work, I went through something similar with my daughter when she was a bit younger and the above worked well.

Sounds like a normal 5 year old girl to be honest. They like to talk. And test boundaries.