Rudeness from my 6 y old

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How / what way should I be dealing with rudeness from my 6 year old ds?
At the moment the rudeness and disrespect is almost constant . I get told I’m the worst mum and he hates me if something doesn’t go his way even tiny things . He calls me names like poo head and screams shhhhhh in my face when I tell
Him
To use kind words ... this is just a few examples . I’ve tried taking things away like iPad / after school chocolate bar etc etc I’ve taken away . I stick to consequences and I am rarely flakey or inconsistent with the discipline but nothing seems to work .
I was advised to try and ignore rudeness and only respond to him when he’s talking nicely or normally at least . I also tried that . I have a tbeee year old and I don’t want her to assume this is normal so the ignoring thing can be tricky .

Any tips / advice would be hugely appreciated .

Maybe try being stern and assertive. Tell him he doesnt always need to agree with you but he does have to respect you. You need to be very clear with that. Tell him disrespectful behaviour is not going to be tolerated.

I do say this . And am stern but it doesn’t stop him the next time :/ no idea what else to do

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