My son's friend with Asperger's,

[paul2louise]

My son has been friends with a boy in his class for a while now who has Asperger's. I only found this out recently. My son is 7. My son gets frustrated with his friend. I would just like some advice of how to explain why his friend sees things a bit differently as he says he is unfair and only wants his own way. I don't want them to loose their friendship. Thank you

Perhaps you could talk to the boy's parents and ask for help?
I managed the situation for my DS (on the spectrum) by talking to the parents in question and explaining his limitations and his strenths to them and told them to contact me immedeately if there was a problem.
And I talked to my son and explained the expectations of NT children and situations to him (i. e. skripts for birthday parties etc.)

There are a few good films by austistic children explaining their condition on YouTube.

I am friends with his mum, i was quite close at one point, maybe thats why i want the friendship to work. As they have only recently had a positive diagnosis of Aspergers i think she is quite defensive of her son and i can understand why. I just wish there was a way i could help my son deal with things when there friendship is strained. I dont want him to just avoid playing with him because he wont play the way my son wants too. If they do fall out she quite often blames my son because she says he knows 'how to push his buttons'. It oftens ends with one of them hitting the other one. I try to tell my son if he is upset with something not to react but to just tell the teacher, but it doesnt always work out that way.

@paul2louise
That sounds as if your friend has not yet quite grasped the meaning of autism herself. It is difficult especially if her son is the first in the family (we are a whole family currently on generation 4 - so quite used to this kind of problem).
I think - if you are in the UK - your national autistic society www.autism.org.uk has information on 'autistic / NT' friendships. My resources are, I assume, in the wrong language.
Oh, and as it is genetic, it is quite possible that she is BAP and so - unknowingly - struggles herself.

I didn't know autism was genetic. I will take a look at the link you sent me. Thank you. 😊