My ds likes to pretend to be people and characters that he likes. He really gets into the role and wants their clothes, ato talk in their accent, basically everything to be exactly the same. He refuses to answer to his own name when he is in character (which is 99% of the time).
He recently saw a female pop singer on the TV and became instantly transfixed, and now says things like, I am a girl, I want long hair and nail varnish, I don't have a 'pisha-misha'(nick name for willy) because I'm a girl etc etc.
To me, this has nothing to do with gender at all and is just about him expressing himself and being stubborn about what he wants. My dh on the other hand, totally blew up today and said he did want his son to call himself a girl and he was not going to allow it at all, as it was not normal.
To me him pretending to be a girl is no different to him pretending to be Spiderman at this age. Could anyone let me know if they've had similar experiences, and if you think this is in a anyway not normal?
dh very much a manly man - and I think this is about his own complexes. I think he is embarrassed that his ds is going around saying 'I'm a girl'.
Any advice most welcome - need evidence that this is not a sign of a major gender issue to calm my dh down!