Morning, so I have a 12 (soon to be 13 year old) and we are really struggling with her attitude. One minute she is lovely and the perfect child then the next minute she just turns and is awful. She has a spiteful tongue and says such hurtful things. It's affecting us as a family and I feel worn down by it. I've tried speaking to her and explaining how she makes me feel but I either get a 'sorry' that means nothing because I know she doesn't mean it or I get told she knows I don't love her and I would rather she didn't live with us. Obviously this is rubbish. She is my world. It's like she wants to control us as a family and make everything about her. I know that her hormones are all over the place but I also know that I didn't bring her up to behave like this towards us. The language she uses is disgusting but I just get told that's how everyone talks at school. I'm finding that I'm avoiding doing things such as days out or making plans for bonfire night etc as she just ruins it but this isn't fair on my youngest. My husband tries but he struggles with the disrespect and this just makes the situation worse. He says it's my fault she's the way she is because I have spoilt her and given her everything. This just causes a row between us and now I just don't know what to do. I feel like I could just run away. I hardly slept last night just worrying about her behaviour. I know that there is no such thing as a perfect family but I just want for mine to be a happy household. Can anyone advise me on how to deal with this or make me feel better by telling me they are in the same boat x