We are the end of our tether with our eight year old DD. She has been like this since about 2 years and we are struggling to know what to do.
She is incredibly difficult all the time:
If you ask her to do any reasonable task 99% of the time she will refuse to do it. This includes basic tasks such as getting dressed for school or music lessons or anything. Normally the only way is to threaten or refuse treats.
She often gets very hyper and repeats words and gets over excited.
She is mean to us and her little sister - blaming her and us for any small thing that goes wrong.
She escalates her emotions very quickly with tantrums and tears.
She finds it hard to sleep and then subsequently is like a zombie in the morning to wake.
I should add that she is a model pupil at school and nursery, has lots of friends and is very loved. It's just exhausting.
Last year we went to the GP but we were sort of referred to the wrong place and it was clear that we probably wouldn't meet the threshold for CAHMs. My dH and I have just come back from an amazing holiday with the DCs and she was absolutely vile for most of it. She has been soo difficult since she returned and we are completely at breaking point.
We love her very much but we just don't know what to do to improve behaviour at home