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Concerns re DD's behaviour - help please!

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timetogohomenow · 31/10/2018 08:41

My DD is due to turn 5 in a couple of weeks and since about the age of 2 1/2 to 3 years, I don't recall going longer than a day without her crying or having some sort of meltdown. Anything can set her off, anything from if she doesn't get her own way (which happens very often, we have boundaries and she doesn't like them) to something stupid like if the sun isn't shining brightly enough!

Some days she's crying before she goes to school and then I pick her up and she cries when we get home. My day often starts and ends with her having a meltdown. She's bright and articulate, has no problems with language and I've talked endlessly with her about when she's feeling frustrated or upset that she's doesn't need to resort to crying and throwing herself around in the first instance, that instead she should tell us why she's upset and we should try to resolve the problem together.

But she doesn't, her first reaction to not getting her own way or if she's not happy is to throw a wobbler and it's really starting to affect my mental health. The amount of days out and holidays she had ruined with this brattish behaviour is ridiculous. We're very firm with her at home, she loses privileges for this kind of behaviour but it just feels like groundhog day at the moment as it doesn't seem to make any difference.

When she's in a good mood, she's funny, bright and a pleasure to be with but I'm getting to the stage where it's easier to be at work because of her insessant whining.

What's wrong with my little girl? Is this 'normal' behaviour? For info, her dad (my DH) can be a moody devil at times who can often spend an entire evening in my company and not say a word (a whole other thread!) so I don't know whether she is picking up any vibes from him.

Will she ever grow out of this?

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timetogohomenow · 31/10/2018 08:44

Sorry about the lack of paragraphs, I did put them in but they've disappeared!

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timetogohomenow · 08/11/2018 22:58

Anybody got any advice or reassurance please?

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Lushmetender · 11/11/2018 19:37

Best to ignore bad behaviour and try to engage her with when good! My dd was highly emotional and wanted all her own way. I remember her having a massive paddy when I too my elder son to school regularly! She would cry for up to 45 mins until she calmed down. It can be extremely frustrating for them when they’re bright and are true to articulate what they mean but you need to decide how to deal with it but be consistent

Lushmetender · 11/11/2018 19:39

My dd is 8 now and all clubs and school saying how well she’s doing!

LightAllGone · 14/11/2018 01:34

My son is 7 and he often gets suddenly annoyed and emotional. He still has tantrums almost every day. He is otherwise well adjusted. I notice several of his friends behave the same. I think it is a maturity thing.

I think you need to be firm - but with the understanding that she doesn’t yet have the full emotional tools to cope so don’t be too hard on her.

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